My mil has been diagnosed with dementia for about 8-9 years now. But sometimes the way she acts I think she is playing us. She is so rude to my children to a point of telling them she hates them and swears at them but is so nice to her own children and her other grandkids. Why is she this way?? It’s so hard. Sometimes i want to swear at her too but I don’t and know I shouldn’t. It’s hard on my children. Any thoughts?
1 - help people to learn to ignore her improper behavior
2 - allow people that she abuses verbally to distance themselves from her
If your children are old enough to understand these concepts, talk to them and allow them to make the choice.