I hired a elder lawyer, my mom has some dementia, Mgh is saying I need to get a neurologist or psychiatrist letter? Why can't her pc do it? As if I'm not having enough trouble. Don't they understand I want to become her POA to protect her assets. 4 older brothers no help really. Living with my mom.
I don't know whether psychiatrist or neurologist is the lawyer'w own rule or if it is law in your state, but there has to be convincing evidence that Mom understands what she is doing. This is for her protection and also to head off any claims in the future (for example, by relatives) that you exerted undue influence.
If Mom is deemed to be incompetent to make these kinds of decisions, then you could pursue guardianship.
Why do you object to having her seen by a specialist?