I am her POA, and I have not been impressed with this doctor from the start. Back when mom had her stroke and went to rehab...this doctor did not make sure moms meds were correct and so mom went without her Wellbutrin and nothing for her smoking for almost 2 months....which I believe threw into early dementia. I am not saying that Mom may need to live elsewhere...but she needs to be able to get along with people and just can't up and leave when shes not happy about something.
We do have a therapist coming in this evening to speak with her and hope that this helps her...pray for us!
You say your mom has early dementia. I would read a lot about dementia, because expectations about what your mom should be able to do like get along with people or tough things out, etc. is not really possible. Her abilities will change and she cannot be expected to be able to do many things due to dementia. It's also progressive, so her condition will grow more severe.
Since you're not sure what caused the dementia, you might discuss your concerns with her doctor and/or get a second opinion. I think that is reasonable, since you suspect there was a medication error.
A new doctor may share the existing doctor's concern of you mom living alone.
Do you think the doctor's recommendation is appropriate?
My cousin's doctor told her point blank that she needed to go somewhere to live to get the assistance she needed. My cousin outright refused initially, but the doctor told her that she was not going to let it lie. She would not let it go. I knew what she meant. I then convinced my cousin to enter assisted living.
So… is this the depression talking, or have there been real, difficult situations?
If your mother is competent there is no reason why anyone can't offer to help her find somewhere else to live, if that is what she really wants. But unless your mother has come up with an actual idea of where she would move to and how she would manage, isn't the GP more likely to be humouring her?
I think we need more information.
Are you mom's medical poa? Perhaps you should have a private chat with the doctor to air these issues.