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If I can't find a poster's most recent answer or comment to a thread, I need to leave this site.


I've just spent 20 minutes trying to find an OP's comment to a question.


I'm leaving and this is why. I can't spend time scrolling through endless posts.

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Barb,
The website may be dysfunctional, but you are not.

See you after the break....

Love from Send
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I hope you don't leave- BarbBrooklyn! I always appreciate your insights. But yes it is a difficult site to navigate...
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Rbuser1 has just returned to AgingCare!

Hey Barb, what are you looking for?
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Rbuser1 Jan 2020
Sorry if caused any confusion. I have a remedy for it though. :)
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I know what you mean........it's extremely frustrating to try & locate a recent comment, that's for sure!!!

I hope you don't leave, though, b/c I always love reading your advice & comments & have learned a lot from you.

Take a break and then come back........we need you!!! :)
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Barb, I totally, 1000% agree with you.   The profile function has been sticking lately so it's hard to get information on a poster's background.   I've had numerous problems with posts being truncated or moved while posting or editing, sections for some reason aren't formatted properly and don't remain where I typed them. 

Another irritant is that the issue categories literally have no meaning, as all threads are aggregated together in one long string of threads.  

And two more are (a) the limited time for editing, and (b) the "reply to" function for response to a poster's individual comments.   These responses are outside of the date order of the post, and sometimes difficult to find.    I've gone through threads repeatedly, checking each "reply to" before finding what I'm looking for .  That's a waste of time.

If I want to follow or respond to a specific thread, I add the URL into my Excel database.    Going through all the posts, or just checking the News Feed is tedious and wastes time.

Perhaps the most offensive and uncomfortable practice though is the inability to delete private messages.  We did SEEM to have that option before the management changeover, but in experimenting one day I was able to find posts I had written months and years ago, many of which I had deleted.  Yet they were still there.    That's troubling. 

More than anything else (including the fake posts), this dysfunctionality irritates me and causes me to just go to one of my favorite forums  that are configured differently.

The one aspect I do think is worthwhile is not posting all who are online at one time; that privacy is nice.   

But like the others, I find your insights invaluable and wouldn't want you to leave, but every time I'm here I start mentally growling at the dysfunctionality and ask myself why I even bother.
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gladimhere Jan 2020
Here I go, replying when, yes the reply function drives me BATTY! For one, it makes it nearly impossible to find some posts that appear on my feed unless Ingo through all comments. Then I get irritated because it is in the replies that so many inappropriate comments and know it all statements, rude comebacks and just plain nastiness come out.
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When or if I make comments on posts I go to my activity portion of my profile and it shows the most recent and then I go to that. It's only if I made made a comment on that post or my own.
I hope this helps.
Please stay, I always have appreciated your input on the different situations on here.
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gladimhere Jan 2020
Does no good if you want to find other's replies!
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I'm not sure Barb if this helps or is what your looking for but have you seen the News Feed and Activity options in the drop down to the right of the search feature at the top? I found them a while ago but well after I started using the forum and while they could do more it did help with my frustration trying to figure out how to revisit threads I was participating in too. Click on the circle up there with leaves maybe (?) I think it's their logo.
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worriedinCali Jan 2020
That’s not what she’s looking for and those features don’t help. She’s complaining about the inability to find replies on a post. When there are multiple replies and multiple replies TO the replies, it is damn near impossible to read the latest reply because of the way the site is set up.
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There needs to be a link straight to the comment reply that shows in the news feed!
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I so agree, this site is not user friendly. The inability to edit after a very short time, or for that matter delete your post, is ridiculous...and...not being able to comment on a persons post drives me nuts.

I do appreciate your valuable input!
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I agree, I agree, I agree!!!

It is impossible to find the most recent response when it is buried in a reply to another comment. What if we just all agree not to use the "Reply to" feature? It's easy enough to state in your response that you're replying to so-and-so, right?
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Barb, I'm so sorry you are leaving but I do understand & share your frustration with this site. I hope, after a time, you come back.
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Bluefin, that’s a good idea. No replies, just new comments. When there’s more than a few comments the replies are almost impossible to find. Waste of time. Especially if the OP doesn’t post much.
I agree I hope you don't leave Barb. I like to read your insights and it’s to have another New Yorker here.
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Barb,
No pressure to stay, it's just that you are a lighthouse in a storm, a source of experience and stability, someone others can trust for answers.

When I get worn out, and need to post less often, I feel it is okay because of people like you, standing strong, holding the line on common sense and reality, imo.
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You were one of the first persons to respond to me when I first joined here. It was very reassuring. One of the others has sadly left. Another poster told me she was being taken advantage of and getting abuse so she felt she had to leave. I don't understand all the goings on about that but I missed her input as I would yours. I hope you reconsider. I certainly don't understand all the methods of this site. I often wonder how someone can find out so much about a certain poster's past history here. I have to admit I slowly have learned more and when I really needed help an administrator did reach out in a timely manner. I guess we all have our frustrations but many are at times helped here with them. My family doesn't always get the time I spend here. I recently moved to a different area and don't have a support system in place other than when I exercise and see people there. I am alright with that. I am in a very friendly area but I doubt I will ever make any true friends. I have been helped here. You would be sorely missed. Hope you feel less frustration.
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Sometimes you can use the browser to search the page by the username from the news feed and find the reply post, but only sometimes. When there are multiple replies, the page doesn't always load all the replies until that "2 more replies" text is pressed.
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Please don't go, Barb. Your wisdom is appreciated. So few have the sense of order and self that you do.

How about the rest of us refrain from replying to individual comments and only reply on the thread, even if we have to use quotes from above?
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Barb, I understand the frustration! There’s a lengthy thread that as of yesterday was still getting replies—replies TO replies and I gave up trying to find them :(

I sincerely hope you stay with us. I appreciate your wealth of knowledge & input. It’s a shame our complaints about the accessibility on this site continue to be ignored.
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It is frustrating Barb, I agree.
The old agingcare set up was better.
But you will be very much missed if you go., so please reconsider.
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What?! What's tipped you over the edge? 😟
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Sendhelp Jan 2020
It is the full moon effect upcoming on January 10th, the Wolf Moon.
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My company designs websites. The reason these site owners don't fix this one is because there is no "incentive" to do so. People who come here are looking to get or give help, they're not spending money so who cares if they leave out of frustration. Not sure if this site gets funding other than from the advertisers but fixing a website costs money. I agree this site is "inelegant" but it provides so much real help to so many and I wished I had found it when my multi-senior dumpster fire was ablaze. That's why I'm here now. You provide so much critical info, insight and compassion. If you leave...wah!!! but I will totally understand and you will be very missed.
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Oh, I think I understand now.
We receive a notice of a post by someone, on our own news feed. It is not stated if it is a reply, or just an answer. We go looking for that person's post on that thread we may be following. It is irritating because we cannot find it.

A part of the problem I have experienced is this:
THERE IS A DELAY POSTING IT ON THE ACTUAL THREAD! MINUTES MAYBE. THE NEWS FEED POSTS FIRST!.

So, maybe waiting, then scrolling through the many posts on a thread.....
just as ridiculous, and I have given up finding replies altogether.

In the New Year of 2020, time is short!
Maybe the Admins can fix the problems?
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I agree with all of you; Barb, if you're burned out, take a break, but we'll all hate it if you leave!
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Oh hell no barbbrooklyn, you can’t leave!!! You always have sound advice. It is a pain scrolling through all the individual answers. I just try to answer to the main thread so it shows up. Don’t leave!!! We all need you. You help me so much with my Mother!!! Don’t go!!! You will be sorely missed!!!
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I always get an email saying the posts were updated at 6:03am and updated again at 6:03 pm.
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How do we go about speaking to admin about our issues? I didn’t even know there was an admin on here.
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Barbbrooklyn, I’m a New Yorker too. If we all just answer the thread instead of individual answers,,we don’t have to scroll through everything because it will be seen up at the top of the page instead of on page 2, or 3 or 4 etc. etc. Please don’t go. You were one of the first ones on here to give me a big fat HUG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Also, Barbbrooklyn, lealonnie, Needhelpwithmom and everyone, please remember to check your wall or profile regular. I never know I have a private or public message unless I check it. I am usually not notified.
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cwillie Jan 2020
All my messages show up on my news feed, it's strange yours don't.... maybe there is a box that needs to be ticked/unticked?
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Barb, you always give solid, wonderful advice to posters. I hope you don't leave. I understand your frustrations with this site, though!
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We just wanted to pop in and let you know we hear you. Unfortunately, we can’t make everyone happy. As example, our understanding of your frustration is with the reply function, yet within this same post others complain that they are frustrated that the reply feature doesn’t exist within the discussion threads. Our intent was to allow caregivers to read answers without needing to read side conversations that sometimes derail from the original question. “Discussions” are more free-flowing, therefore the OP is not in search of specific answers, but more of a discussion based conversation for all to chime in on.

The suggestion to include a link directly to the new reply is a good one. We will approach the idea with the tech team, as it is always our incentive to implement improvements for our members.

In answer to other questions, yes, there are Admins here. But it has always been our policy to loosely moderate the forum. We are all adults here, so while some posters might be more provocative than others, we do not censor posts by taste. Posts are only edited or removed in accordance with our comment policy. That said, personal attacks are always removed because caregivers are here for support. It is common practice on public forums to close the edit function after a period of time. Editing/deleting posts causes issues with continuity of a thread or historical context. Any concern about a post can be handled by contacting an admin directly with the "contact us" function or by email: kim.barnett@agingcare.com

Although you have pointed out frustrations with the workings of the site, you are all providing what was intended in the creation of the forum- answers and support for other caregivers. Especially after a stressful holiday season, large numbers of caregivers who are struggling find this site. Every day your interactions with them provide solace. We sincerely thank you for helping others who are in need and appreciate the important role you are providing in the lives of other caregivers.
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anonymous912123 Jan 2020
Where is the block feature? Your comment policy needs to be revised, so that the responder can edit anytime they wish, same applies to the poster, and either can delete their own posts your report function is non-existent, we have to make up a response to the original posters question and then report ourselves. Does this really make any logical sense to you? Finally, when I go the "More Discussions" it takes me back to the top of the previous page and I have to scroll down...Again...a total waste of time...called busy work. It appears that the Admin is very resistant to change, maybe he/she should more time out here posting and see how difficult and time consuming it is to navigate through this site.
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Barb,
Please don't leave! You have such wonderful insight into the problems of the elderly and give very helpful advice to all of us.

I also find the "Replies" part of the forum frustrating especially when the reply is to a comment/posting that is not one of the most recent postings. It might be better if the "Reply to" feature was removed and ALL postings were listed in chronological order. The person posting would have to say, "In response to _____'s comment on 01/04/2020: >>>>>>>". But maybe that would be better than what we currently have.

I also agree that some of the "Replies" are not helpful comments that attempt to clarify the poster's comment, but snide, catty, negative remarks about what the poster said.

Sometimes we need to take a break from a situation and I hope that is the only thing that you do...take a break. We really need your knowledge and insight and caring attitude on this forum. Please do not leave us forever, just for a little while. {{{HUGS}}}
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