Being unmarried, I volunteered to care for my father, he passed at 90, but during the 2 1/2 years I did that I never had any help from my siblings, if I asked for some assistance ' the answer I got was you volunteered. At the same time my 33 yo back in in 2006 showed up at my door(he'd been on his own since he was 18, went into the military for 4 years in 1991, then got a job and was on his own until Apr 2006. He moved in but after a few days I knew he was not leaving, after numerous attempts at getting him help, I finally had to have him admitted for psychiatric help. Started on meds, counseling, he has a diagnosis of bipolar schizoaffective . I am in deep depression and can't find a moments peace or tranquility...I at a loss, if I stay here, I don't know what will happen to me, if I leave I don't know where to go, and what will happen to him...and i feel very guilty.. What do i do?
Running away is not a solution. If you feel guilty now imagine what you would feel later. Apparently your son is relatively helpless. Also, the fact that you are reaching out for help tells me that you want to do the right thing so call the VA and also the American Legion has a program or two and one does not need to be a member to get assistance.. The VA also has a number of homes for vets with problems that makes them unemployable and many of those vets are there for mental problems.
There are some very effective medicines for bipolar sufferers. That, too, is available through the VA and if not totally free the costs are but a very few dollars
Good luck to you. I feel confident that you will get the help that you so desperately need
Planeman