My father is 89. He's been living with me for 15 years. I am having difficulty meeting his increasing needs. I have POA and have been managing his affairs. I applied for him to a veterans home. The largest in the country. Hes been accepted and we have an appointment July 28 for assessment of care. Its a beautiful place. They dont call it a home but a campus. Its self-contained and town-like. Ammenties are incredible! Its a perfect opportunity for him to enjoy life in the golden years. I had to apply because the County APS said to put him in a home or they would. They are involved because I called them. A so called friend of my father's financially abused him taking him for thousands. APS then noticed that I work and my father is alone at home. They said it was not safe since his judgement is impaired and has alzheimers. They were going to send him to a residental care home. I have visitied a few and didnt like them. This VA campus is like a resort. Talking to my father this weekend with the help of my eldest brother, by phone conference. This will not be easy nor fun. My father has been against an idea like this for years. This VA campus is very hard to get into....I got him in and he could be admitted within 30 days if the assessment goes well. Please any words of wisdom? Tips? This is too good to pass up. Things in my life are getting more complicated and if my father gets sicker I will not be able to care for him. This VA campus has several levels of care so you go in under assisted or independent living and go to another level for more care. I need help to convince him its a good idea at this point in time.
I know this will be hard. You are doing the right thing. May that give you strength.
My dad is also VA and it is getting close to where I may have to also do this. I look forward to your answer asap.
Joyce