bathroom and hallway (right outside the kitchen!) smells atrocious. Neither my husband nor his 3 sisters will even approach this subject with her. Is there an answer out there? She definitely needs to wear, at the very least, a maxi-pad... Disposable underwear would be marvelous - but who needs to broach the subject with her??? And - how could I encourage one of them to do it??
She and I had a good relationship and I was the one to talk to her about wearing the Depends. It might have been easier for me as she had increasing dementia and didn't quite understand things as well.
She was a perfectionist about herself and everything; but didn't realize all this was going on with her body, or was in denial. I suggested the Depends or disposable underwear (whichever you want to call it). Sounds better than calling them adult diapers.
The way I approached it was after she had an accident on the floor and showing her what happened - I very carefully and kindly suggested the Depends. I had bought them and had them on hand to give to her. It is an extremely delicate topic, but it helped so much and she actually agreed to wear them. I would tell her over and over how it was such a common problem and most elderly people wear them at one point or another. This made her feel better that it was something that happened to others as well. Hope this helps.