My husband and I have been living with my 83 year old mother for the past 3 years. She has to know where I am every minute. Usually, after supper, my husband and I will come back to our bedroom to take our medicine, check emails, talk a few minutes and stay until 7:00pm. We play a game now timing her to see how long it takes her to come down the hall to ask if we are coming back to watch TV or what are we doing back here, etc. It takes her about 10 minutes or less. If I go outside, she goes outside and watches me. If I don't tell her I'm going outside and she misses me and looks for me, she gives me the third degree about why didn't I tell her where I went. If my husband and I go outside and sit on the patio, she is out there in 5-10 minutes. If I tell her I'm going outside to sit on the patio, she immediately tells me it is too hot or the news is about to come on, etc. to get me to stay inside with her. I could go on and on. I'm a prisoner. My husband has about had!
What I found to be helpful was planning an activity specifically with her a couple of nights a week after dinner which included just Mom, my husband and myself.
Then, I introduced a "friend" of mine to her. She was not actually my friend at the time, but an employee of a company that provided care for seniors. Mom of course wantd to be included when the friend came over after dinner so it worked out perfectly.
We started having the friend come before dinner - the friend fixed the dinner and spent time with Mom - so my husband and I could do our own thing four or so nights a week.
It seemed like just this little amount of time Mom had with a special friend of her own allowed her to ease up on her demands on my husband and me.
The "friend" continued to help us last year as Mom was very ill and needed more help than we could provide. The company was wonderful and we had several more friends come into our home to help.
Mom passed away six months ago. We miss her.