Just a larger question for all of you. What is the appropriate number of visits per week or other tangible examples to prove you are properly caring for someone?
My own personal feeling is - everyone reacts differently to a loved one's illness/placement in nursing home and step up in their own way. As the only daughter, I visit my mother six times a week at the nursing home. She is very happy to see me and we enjoy the time.
Other family members seem to judge others about how frequently or infrequently people come to visit or call. I say to each their own and why keep score? If someone is being judged harshly by others and not treated nicely, then that makes them less inclined to come again. So I am grateful for anything anyone gets.
Any thoughts/discussion?
There are a lot of people who don't visit or even talk to their parents or sibs more than a few times a month, if that, and nobody thinks they are odd or cruel.
Then there are the families who are "in each other's pockets" calling and visiting often, sometimes even living in multi-generational homes.
And of course there are the dysfunctional families we run into so often on this forum, the ones with histories of mental illness, narcissism and abuse.