Stress leval is high within the family after over a year of watching and careing for her.
I feel nursing home care would be good or at least home care assistance. Moms mind is not always clear so she does make some poor choices.
Should be go with doctors choice or stand up to him and say no.
If she stays at home without professional in-home care, how will "we" take care of her? Often the responsibility falls mainly on one family member. Think carefully about what this would do to income, career growth, social life, and all aspects of the life of the "volunteer" caregiver. If the doctor thinks she needs a nursing home, that implies 24/7 care is needed. This isn't just a drop in a few times a day kind of need.
Think carefully what she needs, and how you could meet those needs, within or outside of a nursing home. Make the best decision you can on behalf of your mother. Don't worry about "standing up to" the doctor. That is not the important issue here.
Best of luck to you and to your mom.
Listen to these ladies. They're right on the money. Good luck my friend.
Took Mom to visit and talk with an assistant living facility that she had chose. As soon as she was told they did not allow smoking she said then “I guess I will stay home”. Until then she had been ready and looking forward to going. She had been told that they do not allow smoking but I guess she had to hear it from them.
My sister who has always said “just leave her alone and let her die doing what she wants to do” Now says she could take care of moms need by herself.
At this point I said I had to let go because I had done everything I could possible do for two years now. Mom is not willing to help herself. My mind and nerves are now shattered.
I love my mom but I can no longer watch her die her way. I have to take care of my own health.