I live 5.5 hrs away and make the trip to my mother's every 3 months. My mom is living on her own in an apartment building and is very social and active. However her memory is starting to decline at the age of 96. My brothers have stopped talking to me from what I hear they think I am getting more money now than they are. They are very angry men and one has called my mother shouted at her and accused her of things especially with her money. She ended up crying and hanging up on him. I’m heading up there this weekend to my moms to clarify some items in her will and to ask my mom about taking my brother off as co-executor. Talking about finances or items she’d like to pass on to certain people overwhelms her and she shuts down after an hour or so. I plan on breaking it up in small sections of time to talk to her. Any other advice?
Your poor mom is 96 and nearing the end of her life. She must feel like the vultures are hovering to pick her bones.