He has a woman living with him now but she used him by living off of him. We are unable to prove anything. She got rid of all of his furniture and replaced it with her own stuff. Even his bed is gone and he is left with an air mattress. But he sticks up for her. I have reported elderly abuse but the case worker saw him once and told me to mind my own business and how my dad is doing what he wants. But now my dad is getting eviction notices because he took out loans and doesn't remember, and now he can not afford to pay his space rent. My dad is not rich, he has no money and his mobile home is out of date and can not be sold. My brother and I are at our wits ends with this. My dad is fighting us tooth and nail, and nobody is on anything, no emergency contact, nothing. He removed me when I last had him tested with Neuro. He did not pass all of the tests but she made me out to be a bad person like I was out to get my dad. So she passed him. So please help me. My dad needs help and he is refusing us. What do we do??
I know you love your dad. Its so hard. You and your brother obviously are worried and want him to be safe and well cared for.
I guess some would say just forget it and let him hit rock bottom. I would find that very hard personally. If it were my dad, I guess I would try and reach out to Adult Protective Services again. Or talk with an elder law attorney.
In the end, no matter what, at least you tried to do everything in your power for him. I hope he will accept the help of his daughter and son soon.
Your Dad would need to apply for Medicaid [which is different from Medicare] as Medicaid will pay for all of his care.
Since Dad isn't able to budget for Assisted Living/Memory Care, which is usually $6k per month, his only choice would be a nursing home that accepts Medicaid.
Your Dad probably keeps that woman around so he won't be lonely and won't be afraid if something happens to him, that she could call 911. That is, if she is still there.
i am sure others here on the forum will come up with other ideas.