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I have been caring for my mom who is wheelchair bound since I was six years old. I am now 27. I have put my life and career on hold I have little to no help from family. Any ideas on a way to de-stress for a couple of hours? Thanks in advance.
Here on this forum, we talk about people who suffer from “FOG” or fear, obligation and guilt. If you’ve been caring for your mother since you were in kindergarten or first grade, you know no other life, do you? In some way, you do not even exist. Have you ever held a job? Do you have health insurance and a retirement fund? Do you have any social life at all? Friends? A hobby?
“De-stressing for a few hours” will make little or no difference in your life. You need help in the long term. You can contact Adult Protective Services in your county. They will assign you a caseworker. APS does more than investigate claims of abuse and neglect. They will find you help and also help you apply for financial aid to pay for it.
After 21 years I don't think a few friendly tips about good ways to relax for a couple of hours is going to make a lot of difference to burnout, really.
But, is this a new development for you, this couple of hours to yourself? Is it progress? Do you have support coming in, or anything like that?
Khowell27, you need a plan to let someone else become the primary direct care giver and allow you to discover and live your own life. While keeping an eye on Mom and making sure she gets the care she needs will probably be a part of your life, it needs to step back to being a part and not your whole life.
Your mother is 66 so your first step should probably be contacting the Area Agency on Aging (AAA) and get a needs assessment. With your mother's needs defined, AAA social workers can qualify your mother for the services she needs. She may qualify for community Medicaid to provide in home care hours for bathing and other personal needs, housekeeping, and transportation services. She may qualify for a senior living apartment or an adult day care program. Really encourage adult day care if that's available; the socialization can have a tremendous positive impact on depression and be a contact point into other services too.
You need to help your mother rebuild an independent life so you can have one too.
Thank you TNtechie for your advice a couple of weeks ago I have begun the steps to get her more help so it's not all just me anymore because the truth is while I do have a part time job and some savings and a couple of friends i really don't have a social life a healthy 27 yr old needs to have and I have also started to have anger and negativity towards the situation and it's not the person I really want to be my mom and I both deserve better again thank you
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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“De-stressing for a few hours” will make little or no difference in your life. You need help in the long term. You can contact Adult Protective Services in your county. They will assign you a caseworker. APS does more than investigate claims of abuse and neglect. They will find you help and also help you apply for financial aid to pay for it.
But, is this a new development for you, this couple of hours to yourself? Is it progress? Do you have support coming in, or anything like that?
Your mother is 66 so your first step should probably be contacting the Area Agency on Aging (AAA) and get a needs assessment. With your mother's needs defined, AAA social workers can qualify your mother for the services she needs. She may qualify for community Medicaid to provide in home care hours for bathing and other personal needs, housekeeping, and transportation services. She may qualify for a senior living apartment or an adult day care program. Really encourage adult day care if that's available; the socialization can have a tremendous positive impact on depression and be a contact point into other services too.
You need to help your mother rebuild an independent life so you can have one too.
Many people who are wheel chair bound do well by themselves while the person who lives with them works and has their own life.