I live 10 hours from my father. I need to make arrangments to get time off work and travel to be there for his Dr Appts. He never remembers when his appts are and VA will not tell me even though I have been put on his list of people they can talk to 3 different times. How do I find out when appts are? What they are for, or just have a dr talk to me since he comes home and never knows that the dr said since he does not hear well?
How does he remember his appointments? Does he go alone or does someone accompany him?
1. Call the Area Agency on Aging in dad's county. Tell them about his situation and ask for a needs assessment. They might also bbe able to make some headway with VA where you can't.
2. Make sure that dad's neighbors have your cell phone number and know that you want to be called if they notice a decline, dangerous things, etc.
3. Will your dad assign you as his PoA? Does he have an advance directive, will or trust set up?
4. If you can, plan a trip to go se him so that you can asess what the state of his living situ9is.
5. And most difficult, wait. Something will happen. A fall, a sudden decline. You might start researching ALs and Nursing Homes, both in his area and close to you.
This is really hard.(((((( Hugs))))))
Thank you so much for your input and understanding...!!!