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Please find another way to calm yourself before you reach for Rx. I suffer from GAD(General Anxiety Disorder) and PTSD. I take Rx and I wish I never started down this road.
Meditation works well. Give yourself times-out even if it is just 5 to 15 mins throughout the day. Go for walks. I agree that it sounds like you need a break. I believe nature is a great way to regenerate ourselves.
I am sorry that your mom is doing this stuff to you. It sucks!!
Karen please find a facility for your mother. Meds aren’t going to help in this particular case. You need to have your own life. It’s her problem if she has separation anxiety, not yours. You don’t have to live with her and be at her beck and call till the day she dies. She could live to be 100 years old. Don’t feel guilty for living your own life, not HERS.
For the three years that I was trying to let my mom remain in her house and manage everything while working and taking care of my own house...I literally lost my ever loving mind. The daily crazy phone calls, the constant run to the pharmacy to get meds refilled and pill dispensers set up, the grass cutting, the grocery shopping, the banking and bill paying, the house repairs...etc... I couldn't take it. I finally got her house ready to sell and found an assisted living facility two minutes from the house. It took so much off of my shoulders once I sold the car and house and moved her in. I still manage her care..pay her bills, wash her clothes, make sure she sees the doctor when needed, but it is so much better. That constant worry is gone and I have some time to myself again.
There are some very nice facilities out there. Start visiting a few, run the numbers and see if you can make it work for your mom.
A break from your caregiving responsibilities is temporary rest but enough time to seek permanent care arrangements for your mother while getting professional assistance for yourself.
Yes meds do help. I’ve been through this especially if your heart is racing. I’ve been hospitalized for this. There is no shame in taking care of your health. The meds take time to work. In addition to this the Dr will rec good eating habits and some daily exercising. I take a short walk everyday. I never thought I would need medication like this but at this stage of my life I need to function stay healthy and take care of my LO. They don’t have to be forever but for now. Good luck
Karen... I'm going through a very similar situation and as I type this I am so exhausted from all of it (also)... I punt from day to day... but, what has made it more difficult for me (us) now is the Covid. I don't have any answers for you now, but I just wanted to let you know I understand and you're not alone... It's very, very difficult and somehow well find a way to get through it... but, somehow we have to do anything it takes to try and keep our health (I've lost 35 lbs and am trying to gain some back). Blessings...
From personal experience YES anxiety meds help. Between Mom and I she was more prone to anxiety so we decided she would try them first. And because she was calmer I was calmer....less drama.
Hi, what absolutely Works is Lavella- it is all natural lavendar in small gel pills. Ideally you will go to a naturopath to get them. Check with your pharmacist and then your dr. before taking. Can order from amazon or reputable Naturopath. You will feel better and sleep better. Works on anxiety and stress and sleep difficulty. Take one in am and one in pm. Also if you have a dog scared of thunder you can rub therapeutic essential oil lavender on the bottom of his/her paws and it will help calm them a lot. Must be the therapeutic essential oil version with only lavendar in it. Expensive but last a long time.
PS source naturals calm orange flavor sublingual was recommended to me by a doc that’s phrase is “Skills not Pills”
The peppermint is more for daytime and the orange for night but he suggested to replace the anxiety meds with this GABA replacement instead. It’s a fairly new product and when it’s under the tongue it goes straight into your system. I find it helpful.
You can order on Amazon or any health food store. It works for me :)
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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Meditation works well. Give yourself times-out even if it is just 5 to 15 mins throughout the day. Go for walks. I agree that it sounds like you need a break. I believe nature is a great way to regenerate ourselves.
I am sorry that your mom is doing this stuff to you. It sucks!!
Hugs!!!
There are some very nice facilities out there. Start visiting a few, run the numbers and see if you can make it work for your mom.
Take care.
The peppermint is more for daytime and the orange for night but he suggested to replace the anxiety meds with this GABA replacement instead. It’s a fairly new product and when it’s under the tongue it goes straight into your system. I find it helpful.
You can order on Amazon or any health food store. It works for me :)