My MIL is now refusing to get out of bed. She is not just dead weight......but resistant weight. So today she was bedbound and I am unable to change her depends because she refuses to roll side to side. Refuses to cooperate at all. any suggestions? BTW, her behind is large and sprawled out so it's hard for me to get under it.
The rejection and hateful things my MIL says to me would be categorized as serious verbal abuse. It is easy to say "don't let it bother you." But that's tough when the comments are so personal. (And when I am ducking to avoid a punch) I'm looking to sedating meds at this time.
You have been a very giving person to care for your husbands mother but unless she is very close to death maybe now is the time to consider a nursing home. You know her and your strengths so discuss it with your hospice nurse and do what is right for you. Talk to your son and son in law too they are a rare breed in this world and a blessing to you in their willingness to help with MIL it can't be something they look forward to. You can be very proud of them. I hope you can find a solution to all this. It is so much worse with the violence too. Perhaps a large hammer would be the solution!!!!!!!
she will be too shocked she won't have the chance to swing at you and for a change YOU can have a smirk on your face.
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