My Mom is 92 and has been living with me for 5 months. She doesn't have dementia and her mind is pretty darn good. She does have anxiety which is difficult to deal with. Her health is good but has advanced Macular Degeneration and that causes it's own set of problems. I'm going on a 10 day vacation in July. I have a 'caregiver' who is willing to come in to home and stay with her. The problem is I don't think that is the best thing for my mother. She is in the home all they time. She needs socialization, contact with other people. Once a week I take her to a Day Care facility for 3 hours and she enjoys herself so much. Seeing her smiling, dancing (well swaying) and interacting with other make my heart rejoice. I've told her that I'd like to have her go on her own vacation at a short-term program. She agreed but now is having second thoughts. I've already made the reservation at the facility. I don't want to upset her but I need to do the right thing for her. The caregiver is good for a few hours here and there but I really don't think she can give Mom what she needs during the 10 days. Any suggestions or has anyone dealt with this problem?
Blannie is right! Sally is doing a darn good job to make sure her needs are met, taking care of herself first!
If you really are sincere, you need a break after 12 years.
Sally, just go for it. Mom won't die in respite care, even if she complains. You deserve a life too!