She insists on working. My eighty year old mother has gone to the ER this week. I took her wheeled her in on a wheelchair. Told them what was going on with her. Severe pain in hips for three months, not eating, not sleeping, etc. yet she continues to work. The dumb lady at the Loma Linda ER in Menifee, Riverside CA told her to keep working.
The reason my mother keeps working is to support my brother who is 55 and lives in another county. He has also taken financial advantage of her and has put her home in foreclosure. Brainwashed her into thinking I am abusing her and filed false charges against me. Of course they were dropped.
How do I get my mother to stop working, her friends and doctor tell her too. She comes home in pain. Got bank statement and brother overdrawn her account.
She even bought him a car. Please advise me. I don't want to start any problems because she will fight me because she says "its her son"
OMG, I don't know whether to run for the hills or stay put and try to protect her from herself and her son!
My boss will be 80 and he still owns his company and has full charge. He said without his work, he'd probably be sitting on a front porch somewhere with a blanket over his legs not remembering who he is.
We begged her to stop and take it easy and tried to keep everything done but she just found other things to do and said that is what kept her going. And you know what? I think she was right. She continued on up until she fell right after her 86th birthday and she had to slow down for a bit, but then she was at it again...then she broke her leg the following year, went to rehab, then refused to slow down ....until the following year, when she took a horrid tumble down her basement stairs and sustained a substantial trauma to her head....at which point I moved home to care for her because she would have had to go to a nursing home otherwise...BUT, the doctors all told us one reason she was able to come through what would probably otherwise have taken her life was because she had continued to be active. I do think they were right...
It doesn't mean you don't worry about them...but they're not going to slow down at your insistence. I think that generation gets a lot of pleasure out of a good days work....it makes them feel productive and needed. I agree with everyone's responses, and I'm guessing as long as she is doing a good job, and she is probably doing a better job than peers one third her age....just pray for her and keep going...it's not easy, but if you force her to stop she will probably just resent you for it....blessings to you all
As for the sibling thing... I did involve myself in a situation where one of my siblings was causing my parents financial difficulty and mental harm. Well that just backfired on me big time. My Mom came crying to me for help and I jumped in like a fool. When I tried to talk my parents into standing up for themselves they both backed down and I ended up in the hot seat. NEVER again. I guess in this long winded way I am agreeing with jeannegibbs...run for the hills.
Above info. is good. I have not much more to add.
God bless... Happy Mother's day to your mom & you.
This behavior toward her son did not just start last week. It probably reflects her life-long attitude. I can't imagine how you would change it.
If she is competent mentally and her employer is satisfied with her work, I don't see how you can stop her from working.