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I currently provide my mom with all of her care. ie., drive her to Doctor appointments, stores. Take her site seeing in the vehicle. provide help with money, food. Maintenance, assist her alongside of her while walking to and from home. Basically I live with her and assist her in every way possible. Problem is my sister has power of attorney over my mom with finance and medical. She cannot come near me and she has a home if her own. She has not seen my mom for over 2 years. I would like to get power of attorney since sister isn't involved and also get paid for being a caregiver for my mom.
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CTTN55 Oct 2022
"I currently provide my mom with all of her care. ie., drive her to Doctor appointments, stores. Take her site seeing in the vehicle. provide help with money, food. Maintenance, assist her alongside of her while walking to and from home. Basically I live with her and assist her in every way possible. Problem is my sister has power of attorney over my mom with finance and medical."

So your sister gets to continue to build HER financial future, while you are left to take care of your mother (AND assist her financially)? Why did you agree to this?
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Hello, i woukd suggest you spend some time on this site reading the various questions and answers and then after reading them, ask yourself if being a paid unskilled caregiver for your parent(s) is the way to go. I think you might decide that you should be looking at senior care facilities instead. Even if they move to a facility, no worries, you will still need to supply things for them, take them to the doctor, etc., and at the end of the day, you will find yourself emotionally drained. Don’t give up your current career to undertake this folly. Even if your parents are the sweetest people in the world, it’s hard and over time, you will be finding thst you have no outside life, no friends- just your increasing duties as a caregiver.
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A 67 Y.O. acquaintance retired and became a CNA to care for his mother. He lives in, and is paid. Make no mistake, this is a job. He drives her, cooks for her, shops for her, provides stimulation and entertainment, monitors her health carefully and supervises all medical care. He does have a female aid as needed to bathe Mom for her comfort. Every four months his sibling flies in from out of state to give him a week off. This can work, but it has to be a real job with clearly defined terms and respect for everyone's needs. The parent also has to have the financial means to pay for care.
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Khowe04, the vast majority of grown children who caregive for their parent do not get paid..... unless the parent has funds to pay that grown child. If yes, then it is important to draw up an Employment Contract stating the number of hours to be worked, the duties, what days will be time off, the hourly rate. Then there is the payroll deductions. There are companies who do that type of payroll work, for a fee.

If your parent can qualify for Medicaid [which is different from Medicare], your State might offer some type of payment program. Don't be surprised if you find the payment is minimum wage for a few hours per week.

There will come a time where your Mom may need a village to help her. Then you would need to consider what would be the best path. Home caregivers to come in [it's expensive] or having Mom move to a senior facility [less expensive]. I know it's a tough decision.
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See an elder care attorney.
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Here is good information from the home page of this forum:

https://www.agingcare.com/articles/how-to-get-paid-for-being-a-caregiver-135476.htm
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My 95 yo mother lives with me and I compensate myself by using some of her social security and pension income to pay for 20 hours of private sitters so I can get away.

I'm not aware of any compensation for caregivers where I live in NC, but I am currently going through the maze of paperwork with the VA to have her approved for survivor's annuity. That will certainly help with the finances.
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Khowe04i: That (the adult child caregiver paycheck) exists ONLY if the parent can afford to do so.
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K, your profile says that your mother is 69 and you have been caring for her (at least partly) for 23 years – since she was 46. “For the last few years we have been dealing with dementia and I can't work outside the home anymore”. You must be in your mid 40s now, and that is far too young to be giving up paid work in the workforce, with savings and contributions to your own future retirement needs.

You are new on the site, and there is lots of good information about options for you to find out. Click on Care Topics at the top of the screen, then on A for Assisted Living and S for Senior Living, as well as D for Dementia and so on for all your mother’s health issues. Don’t set your heart on getting paid yourself (it’s not likely, hence the dead ends you have found), and look at all the options with fresh eyes. Start checking!
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That depends on your partners income, eg: I cared for my elderly Father who suffers from Alzheimer's since 2016 and in 2020 I applied for carers and the allowance/payment of $138.60 a ftn was all i was entitled to providing 24hr care as they took my husband veterans pension into account.
I guess everyone's circumstances are different.
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