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Has she been checked for a UTI or thyroid condition? She is fairly young to be having "dementia"-like symptoms but the 2 illnesses mentioned can mimic those memory impairment issues, and they are treatable.
Often people on this forum use "therapeutic fibs" to get their LOs to see doctors, like, "our business insurance company now requires it". If you (or her girlfriend) can accompany her to doc for UTI/thryoid check this companion can secretly pass the staff a pre-written note outlining the further cognitive concern and to give her a cognitive test. They are happy to do this and I did this with my MIL so I know they will accommodate this request.
Just FYI anyone who is being told they are having memory issues will feel terrified. It is not just a matter of "telling" someone. She may also have a condition called anosognosia, which is when the person is unaware of their condition and unable to accept it (and they NEVER accept it). If you have a business together (as i have with my husband for 38 years) this is good leverage for you to diplomatically use to move her towards medical diagnosis. There will be a cascade of problems if she does have dementia or ALZ and you don't see an elder law attorney/estate planner to get all your legal documents in place. Just read around on this forum to learn how bad it can easily get. I wish you much wisdom as you try to help her and preserve your business.
If at anytime she says anything that might indicate self harm or harm to others call 911 and ask for transport to the hospital. Explain to the dispatcher what is going on so responders will be prepared.
I am reading this and get the impression you may think we are Professionals. Sorry, we are Caregivers sharing our experiences and helping each other deal with caring for a LO.
In my Dads family the signs of Alzheimers started in their mid 70s. There are members on this site that LOs are in their 60s showing signs of a Dementia even younger. As Geaton said, you may have to tell your GF a little white lie to get her to see a Dr. If she tries to hurt herself or she hits someone else, then u call 911 and have her taken for a 72 hr. Physic evaluation. Its called the "Bakers Act".
Your GF needs labs to rule out anything physical is going on. If not, then she will need a Neurologist to determine if its a Dementia and what type. Its important to know what type for medication purposes.
Uptown, curious what kind of dementia signs are you seeing? Does it happen more so during certain times of the day? Is it daily? How is she when in the office or talking business?
The past year, between politics and covid, our brains are on overload. Have you noticed any covid fear on her part or concerns regarding the country?
If it is an occasional forgetting of a name, welcome to the club. My sig-other and I [mid-70's] are lucky to remember our own names :P The way I look at it, by the time we reach a certain age the file drawers in our brain are full.... thus finding an answer takes longer and some answers has been misfiled.
As mentioned by other posters, have her see her primary doctor. Have a blood test done to see if she is low on any vitamins, have a Urinary Tract Infection test, etc.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Often people on this forum use "therapeutic fibs" to get their LOs to see doctors, like, "our business insurance company now requires it". If you (or her girlfriend) can accompany her to doc for UTI/thryoid check this companion can secretly pass the staff a pre-written note outlining the further cognitive concern and to give her a cognitive test. They are happy to do this and I did this with my MIL so I know they will accommodate this request.
Just FYI anyone who is being told they are having memory issues will feel terrified. It is not just a matter of "telling" someone. She may also have a condition called anosognosia, which is when the person is unaware of their condition and unable to accept it (and they NEVER accept it). If you have a business together (as i have with my husband for 38 years) this is good leverage for you to diplomatically use to move her towards medical diagnosis. There will be a cascade of problems if she does have dementia or ALZ and you don't see an elder law attorney/estate planner to get all your legal documents in place. Just read around on this forum to learn how bad it can easily get. I wish you much wisdom as you try to help her and preserve your business.
In my Dads family the signs of Alzheimers started in their mid 70s. There are members on this site that LOs are in their 60s showing signs of a Dementia even younger. As Geaton said, you may have to tell your GF a little white lie to get her to see a Dr. If she tries to hurt herself or she hits someone else, then u call 911 and have her taken for a 72 hr. Physic evaluation. Its called the "Bakers Act".
Your GF needs labs to rule out anything physical is going on. If not, then she will need a Neurologist to determine if its a Dementia and what type. Its important to know what type for medication purposes.
The past year, between politics and covid, our brains are on overload. Have you noticed any covid fear on her part or concerns regarding the country?
If it is an occasional forgetting of a name, welcome to the club. My sig-other and I [mid-70's] are lucky to remember our own names :P The way I look at it, by the time we reach a certain age the file drawers in our brain are full.... thus finding an answer takes longer and some answers has been misfiled.
As mentioned by other posters, have her see her primary doctor. Have a blood test done to see if she is low on any vitamins, have a Urinary Tract Infection test, etc.