MY grandmother yet again has stop eating and is eating very very little. Last year she was put into the hospital twice and this year she did it back in February but later rebounded. It is getting very tiring since she is taking her medicine yet she refuses to eat for no reason and I have to coax her into it. She hasn't eaten a full meal since Wednesday to be exact. Thursday to now Wednesday she just nit picked at her food or didn't eat at all on some days such as Sunday and Monday. I feel like I'm at wits ends with her she refuses medical treatment since she has been cleared of any mental disturbances as and as her POA its very difficult since I'm only 20. I have yet to been able to go out at all this summer as well as land a job since she seem to go into a tantrum in front of a manager or she will simply stop eating as she is doing now. I don't know what else to do since she refuses to pay off any of the doctors from her last hospital stay and I can't pay them myself since I have to go through her 1st and even when I had done that she was very upset. I just don't know what else to do now. Should I try to get her to eat more or should I try to get a doctor in since she's too weak to drive she has some slight twitching and she already fell twice. I feel like giving up on her because she just won't listen at all and even when i tried to get her last doctor in to help her doctor just simply seem not care at all.
The hospital has social workers who help plan discharges and let the patient know about options etc. Ask to speak to the social worker now -- don't wait for a hurried discussion before discharge. As mrsribit and nj2bfree say, this is the time to make it known that you cannot be her sole caregiver, and that she needs more help than you can provide 24/7 and that discharging her back to her home without assistance in place will be dangerous.
You are doing a great job.
We are all here to support each other. Don't wait to see if things will improve though, otherwise they make take actions like moving her, etc., that will need to be addressed on top of everything else.
Best to take the bull by the horns and get legal help in play now. Great on the ref you got - also talk to lawyer that you and your Grandmother used services when you both signed POA. They would be best placed to site her state of mind, etc., when she undertook action to give you POA. Let us know what happens, all the best!
I suggest that you contact that lawyer who was recommended to you and not wait to see if things will get better.
Being in the nursing home might just be what is best for Grandma. And having her son take over responsibilities might also be suitable. But those decisons need to involve the person Gramda designated to make them ... namely, you!
Please, contact the lawyer. It is obvious you are being ignored and I don't think it will get better on its own ... in the eyes of the hospital and your uncle, you are just a kid. In the eyes of the law, you have legal responsibilities for acting on your GM's behalf.
Good news she is home and walking better than ever. the doctor tested her and there is no sign of dementia and her cause of losing her appetite was ulcers which she is prescribed some medicine for that. She is no long on anti-depressants either. She's looking better and is back to normal but we're going to get out of the house more this time. Thank you for the prayers and kindness here :) thanks again!
Grandma says she is willing to move. When it comes right down to it maybe she will and maybe she won't. But don't base your decisions on the neighbor's predictions!
Try to spend a lot less time with the toxic neighbor. You are doing amazingly well on your own!
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