My husband has been partial care giving for his dad (he is in his mid-80's). Diabetic, eats candy, ice cream, pies, etc. Wants the miracle pill that will make him 16 again, hateful, deaf (refuses to get a hearing aid that would help the deafness), picky eater (wants pigs feet, biscuits with lots of gravy, no left overs -- this includes freshly just made sandwiches that have been made with "left over" ingredients such as ham, cheese, etc.)
His health has been declining and my husband has been making 3-4 trips to his house a day, fixing meals (some get one or two bites with a "I can't eat this sh** or thrown across the room). My hubby has been getting up earlier before work, driving to his house and keeping a horrible schedule.
In these last few months, he has had an increase in his sugar levels from diabetes, gained weight, tired from lack of sleep and his blood pressure was through the roof (e.g. 222/124).
Two weeks ago, my father in law went to the hospital. His blood sugar levels are better than my husbands (before going in) and they have taken him off a lot of the unnecessary meds he was on. He is scheduled to go to a nursing home for rehab.
In that time, my husband has been happier, blood pressure slowly impoving, he is losing weight and getting more sleep. My blood pressure has been going down too.
He has said that he is not going several times a day to the nursing home, in fact he is not even going to go every day. He said any man in his 80's that the doctors have stabalized and in many ways is doing better than we are does not need him constantly.
Has anyone else had their health suffer due to care giving? Did it improve when your family member passed or went to a nursing home? We have learned it is just not worth it.
two, sort of thin, ear phone like objects that fit in the ears. I couldn't live in my mother's home without TV EARS. You can buy them online.
I used to eat very healthy foods, now my diet is lousy. I don't know what's happening to me. My mother is a depressed, verbally abusive woman. I never would have believed how my health could suffer so much by being a caregiver for my mother.
All this, while my brother, who has never lifted a finger, mooches off her, but he is now the "golden child" even though he has treated her like shit his entire adult life, and rarely came to see her (unless he needed money). I am now going to have a security system installed (including cameras) due to his bogus claims and my Mom's imaginary accusations.
I am so frustrated and it is so stressful, I'm physically sick. When we go to trial this month (he assaulted me & I filed a Temporary Restrainingqq Order), I will give him a 30-day notice to get his belongings out of this house and stop using this as his permanent address if I can. And I will never allow him in this house unless there is a third-party to keep their eye on him because he has taken things that belonged to our father, which my Mom needed (like a nice GPS).
on a scale of i1 to 10 witrh ten being the highest, how would I rate the degree of emotional/physical impact that caregiving has had on me
ok, here goes
emotional impact: ok, that would be 0, i know thats less than one but at least I didn't say negative infinity, right?
now, physical impact: that would be an 11, at least I didn't say positive infinity, right
does anybody see where Im going with this?.....................No?!...................neither do I :-) LOL nite all
since I like hockey so much, heres a little joke for ya
im sitting at a hockey game and behind me are these two gents
one turns to the other and says, you know since Ive gotten older m y sex life with the missus has greatly diminished so, with that he turns to the guy sitting next to him, and asks "how often do you have sex with your wife?" and the other guy goes, after giving it some thought........................"oh, only between periods" you know I was up in Canada to watch a hockey game several yrs ago and the ref wouldn't take his whistle out of his pocket to blow the play dead so one fan stands up and yells, "hey ref, this isn't hudson bay hockey" any hockey fans, here? anybody here too tired from caregiving to have sex? later guys, goodnite all :-) Wayne
so am I LEP627, so am I
now, the sponge baths arte being given more frequently
now, the nurse is coming more frequently
plus her constant lack of productivity with the pt
this is looking more and more like a downhill slide if you ask me
im heating up crab cake for my mom after going out and buying them
so my dad calls me an ashole because he thinks i left it in the oven too long
does he go and take it out of the oven? no, of course not
thats because I firmly believe that he takes some sort of sadistic pleasure out of making these remarks that I need like a whole in the f*&^&g head, especially now nite all :-) W
Besides the stress, I have difficulty sleeping, chronic migraines, and need thousands of dollars of dental work I need to have done. But I have not used my Mom's money for myself because I knew it could be viewed as Elder Abuse. I'm waiting for this nightmare to end. Hopefully, it will be very soon. I can't take this much longer!