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What do you have to feel guilty about? Is your mother safe? Well fed? Well cared for? Visited by you on a regular basis? Clothed? Enjoying activities in the Assisted Living home? THAT is what is important, nothing else. You should be feeling guilty if your mother was homeless or crying in pain that you were ignoring. But living in a place that costs several thousand dollars a month is not something anyone should be feeling guilty for. It's actually something to be grateful for. When I get to be in need of such a place, I won't have the funds my mother has to live in such a place where she's waited on hand & foot all day long.
Think of it that way, and let go of unnecessary guilty feelings. They serve no purpose and make no sense.
If its hard to take her out, don't. Als, for a small cost, will allow u to eat a meal with her. Moms had outside entertainment come in, so I sat with her.
Welcome.. As much as my Husband loved going for car rides I made the decision early on that safety was going to be a priority for me. When it became difficult and almost dangerous to try to get him into the car I stopped the car rides unless it was an important appointment.
Make your visits with your mom the focus not the going out. Bring a special lunch if it is lunch you miss taking her out for. Many Assisted Living communities have vans that make transportation so much easier. You can ask if you can go with them when they take a group to the local Walmart, restaurant or park. When my Husband was in Day Care at a Memory Care Facility I would check the monthly calendar and determine what restaurant he might want to go to and I would go with the group. He went willingly because I was going but I could also help the staff a bit if they needed it for the others. This way you might still get to go out with her but it will be easier as far as transportation.
By the way there is no reason to feel "guilty" you can feel sad because this may no longer be a part of the week that you can enjoy together but there are ways to adapt and still enjoy the day with her.
Welcome to the forum. Does your mom enjoy leaving the assisted living place or do you feel it’s an obligation to take her out? If she’s content, there’s no need to worry over it. If she enjoys going out and it’s too hard for you to accomplish on your own, then do it only when you have help. When my mom was in a nursing home we took her to her home a number of times, but if was definitely a group effort. We also used a medical van to transport her on some outings. Above all, know your mom is blessed to have you looking out for her, you’re doing the best you can, and that in itself is enough, no one can ask more. I wish you the best
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Think of it that way, and let go of unnecessary guilty feelings. They serve no purpose and make no sense.
As much as my Husband loved going for car rides I made the decision early on that safety was going to be a priority for me.
When it became difficult and almost dangerous to try to get him into the car I stopped the car rides unless it was an important appointment.
Make your visits with your mom the focus not the going out. Bring a special lunch if it is lunch you miss taking her out for.
Many Assisted Living communities have vans that make transportation so much easier. You can ask if you can go with them when they take a group to the local Walmart, restaurant or park. When my Husband was in Day Care at a Memory Care Facility I would check the monthly calendar and determine what restaurant he might want to go to and I would go with the group. He went willingly because I was going but I could also help the staff a bit if they needed it for the others. This way you might still get to go out with her but it will be easier as far as transportation.
By the way there is no reason to feel "guilty" you can feel sad because this may no longer be a part of the week that you can enjoy together but there are ways to adapt and still enjoy the day with her.