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Which best describes their mobility?
How well are they maintaining their hygiene?
How are they managing their medications?
Does their living environment pose any safety concerns?
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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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Right now I think you might be in the shock stage. You are trying to look at too big of a picture. You cannot face it all in one bite. And for those of us on the forum, we cannot give anything but sympathy to this question. So try to take a few breathes and then break it down. Right now, TODAY, what is the biggest problem? Do you have someone with physical problems or mental problems? Do you have POA in place for health care? What is needed? What kind of care is wanted? Help with cooking, cleaning, transit? Something other? Assisted living? Decisions about palliative care or hospice? Try to break it down into lists. What must be done first. You can only help with this one day at a time. I found in the beginning of our crisis a year ago that diaries helped, and lists. Things that had to be addressed. Hope you will come to us with specific answers so we can say more to you than just that we are so sorry this is happening in your life and we wish you every luck. That much is true. But hope we will find more specific ways to provide guidance even if that guidance comes down to "get to the doctor" or "get to the lawyer" or whatever. Best of luck.
I remember when my dad was gravely ill. He was complete care and his needs were constant. It was about 10 days of hell with a constant stream of hospice staff, medical equipment deliveries and relatives that suddenly cared. I actually prayed for God to take him, to relieve his suffering and selfishly, to relieve my own. We got through it and I imagine there will be more bad days ahead.
Here, you are surrounded by others who have been through it and/or going through it now. There are no easy answers but you’ll find a wealth of wisdom and compassion on this forum. For me, the big thing was no longer feeling alone. Caregiving can be very isolating.
Don't be afraid to reach out for specific advice or even for emotional support. Sometimes it’s all any of us can offer.
Oh yes, many of us have been in seemingly hopeless situations. My mom has Parkinson’s disease which is a progressive neurological disorder without a cure. She’s 94 and suffering. It’s heartbreaking. I feel your pain. I cared for her for decades, 15 years in my home.
Before that I cared for my mom and dad together, mom with seizures and Parkinson’s and dad with bladder cancer, diabetes, high blood pressure, heart disease and a stroke. Also cared for my brother with diabetes and liver disease.
Dad and brother are deceased. My mom is now with my brother and sister in law.
You are doing all you can and if you are like I was, it never feels like we are doing enough to help them but the truth is there usually isn’t any more that can be done to improve their situation.
I am so sorry you are struggling with this. I wish you the very best and post as often as you need to for support. That is what this forum is all about.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
So try to take a few breathes and then break it down.
Right now, TODAY, what is the biggest problem? Do you have someone with physical problems or mental problems? Do you have POA in place for health care? What is needed? What kind of care is wanted? Help with cooking, cleaning, transit? Something other? Assisted living? Decisions about palliative care or hospice?
Try to break it down into lists. What must be done first. You can only help with this one day at a time. I found in the beginning of our crisis a year ago that diaries helped, and lists. Things that had to be addressed. Hope you will come to us with specific answers so we can say more to you than just that we are so sorry this is happening in your life and we wish you every luck. That much is true. But hope we will find more specific ways to provide guidance even if that guidance comes down to "get to the doctor" or "get to the lawyer" or whatever.
Best of luck.
Here, you are surrounded by others who have been through it and/or going through it now. There are no easy answers but you’ll find a wealth of wisdom and compassion on this forum. For me, the big thing was no longer feeling alone. Caregiving can be very isolating.
Don't be afraid to reach out for specific advice or even for emotional support. Sometimes it’s all any of us can offer.
Before that I cared for my mom and dad together, mom with seizures and Parkinson’s and dad with bladder cancer, diabetes, high blood pressure, heart disease and a stroke. Also cared for my brother with diabetes and liver disease.
Dad and brother are deceased. My mom is now with my brother and sister in law.
You are doing all you can and if you are like I was, it never feels like we are doing enough to help them but the truth is there usually isn’t any more that can be done to improve their situation.
I am so sorry you are struggling with this. I wish you the very best and post as often as you need to for support. That is what this forum is all about.
Sending many hugs your way. 💗