I am the caregiver for my 73-year-old husband with transverse myelitis, spinal stenosis, and arthritis. He has balance issues, mobility issues, and is a frequent faller. Lately when he falls, he has not had the upper body strength to either pull himself up with his arms or to get his legs "work" to help get him off the floor. He uses a regular walker in the house, sometimes a rollator, and a transfer chair. He has great difficulty transferring from the car to his walker and into 3 low steps into the house. His legs just won't support him for long.
Sounds like now would be a good time to start looking.
I figure when you start asking when, it is the time, because so much is going on that is to much for 1 person to deal with.
They're reasonably priced, ranging from around $30 upward for more sophisticated models. They can be put on a table and anchored with a heavy weight for arm use (so they don't slide around on the table), or on the floor for pedaling as with a bike.
I know the idea of given up your independence leaves a sour taste in your mouth. I've been disabled since the day I was born, and been in a wheelchair my entire life. I had to fight with everything in me to become independent ever since I can remember. Eventually, I did come to the point were I could live on my own I even got married. Then, one day it started. I had an aide come in everyday to help me for four hours and I was able to take care of myself the rest of the day. I started falling all the time even holding on to a bar. On top of the disability I've had all my life, I developed arthritis in my knees. Since I was already unable to walk, I was not able to have knee replacement, since this required me to be able to walk afterwards.
I had to swallow my pride and give up my apartment and the independence I'd worked so hard for, and moved into a nursing home. If your husband can dress himself and be a little independent in a wheelchair, an assisted living MIGHT be an option. But, if your husband needs more hands-on help, than a nursing home might be the answer.
See if you can get in contact with a rep. from APS-Adult Protective Services-and set up a meeting to discuss your options. Your husband's PCP might be able to give you references to agencies that might be able to point you in the right direction as far as insurance coverage, another thing to consider, and the right placement options that will put both your and your husbands mind at ease.
All The Best,
Colleen P. Pell.
My rotator cuff tore in three places and my bicep severed. I continued to care for my husband after surgery and 6 months later two of four stitched places retore.
Unless you have 5 daughters, each named M. Teresa, or a brother named E. Musk, or are related to a magical lady named Glinda, I think the alarm rang yesterday letting you know that it's time.
I know that my, and my husband's, time is coming soon so in the last 6 months I've begun downsizing (right-sizing) slowly. I've gotten rid of possessions for example by either taking tools to an auction house (Quinn's), some items to a consignment shop (Evolution Home), giving things away to friends or a Goodwill type place and even placed clothing and shoes in those yellow donation dumpsters. Lightening the load has been kind of nice, and relaxing actually.
Best wishes to you.
Have an open discussion with him about both your safety and his, as you may injure yourself attempting to assist him during or after a fall.
Perhaps you will want to look into selling your home and moving to an assisted living facility. They will take patients that are wheelchair bound. You can pay up for level of care if he needs more assistance with mobility, and his insurance may pay for physical therapy that is offered at assisted living through a subcontracted company. By choosing assisted living, the two of you can continue to live together, and you have the comfort of knowing that if he needs mobility assistance or if he falls, there is staff available 24 hours a day to assist him. Although your health insurance and/or Medicare will not pay for assisted living, if you have long term care insurance, they will reimburse you for a large portion of the cost.
If you lack resources for assisted living or want to remain in your home, you can call Community Long Term Care. They will come out and do an evaluation and offer options and support for care based on his level of need.