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It would help if you could give a few details about the ‘interference’, and what you have already tried to sort out the problem. Please keep going with some information on this, as we usually only hear the other side.
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So, you are charge of a large facility and the relatives are interfering with care?

Can you tell us a bit more about how they are interfering?

What policies are in place that your staff can point to?
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anonymous1732518 Sep 2023
Maybe being a "helicopter" loved one.
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Based on what's in your profile, your question doesn't match. Is this really more of an advertisement or self-promotion?

"I am a registered nursing sister of 45 years. I have worked the best part of the past 8 years as a Matron for ,500 elderly residents and Line Manager at retirement complexes as well as the luxurious XX Dementia and Altzheimer's Facility in...South Africa. I have very recently completed the CARES CDS Cerification online course.
 
I would like to know whether there is an online train the trainer course that I could do.
 
There is a huge need to cater for the ever increasing number of Aged and Cognitive Impaired Elderly people here in South Africa. Please could someone email me with details."

You don't seem "frail". Seems like you are soliciting for workers here. Please clarify.
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First I suggest you remove your email address from your profile.
If you have been managing 500 residents for the past 8 years you should have figured out how to manage families by now.
I agree with Geaton777 that this sounds like an advertisement and or self promotion.
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BurntCaregiver Sep 2023
@Grandma

The OP's profile states she's been a registered nursing sister for 45 years.

That sounds like a Catholic Sister who has been in service for a very long time and not coping anymore.
Her Order needs to take care of her by letting her retire or lessening the level of work they expect of her.

Catholic Sisters do not advertise or self-promote. Her profile looks to me like she's desperately looking for help because there's way too much responsibility on her at her age.
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Your profile says that you have been a registered nursing sister for 45 years. Is it correct to assume that your service has been with an Order of Catholic Sisters because you are a nun?

If you've been working for 45 years you are retirement age. If you are frail and cannot manage dementia care anymore you should discuss retirement with the Order of Sisters that you belong to.

I was a supervisor in a high-end AL facility so I understand all about interfering family members. They all mean well but most of the time their interfering only causes difficulty and more work for the people who actually have to do the work.

Please consider retirement. After 45 years of service in nursing you've earned it.
Also, the others here are right and you should most definitely remove your email address from your profile.
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anonymous1732518 Sep 2023
In South Africa nurses can be called nursing sisters, though I'm not sure if it is just for Catholics
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According to your profile you've been caring for people in a professional manner for 45 years now. And you yourself describe yourself as "frail," so do you think that perhaps it's time that you step down from your position and hand the reigns over to someone perhaps younger? That way you won't have the stress of overseeing the 500 folks you oversee and can start taking care of yourself.
Of course you can still volunteer for this organization or work part-time if you want, but it may be time to just step back before it does you in.
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AlvaDeer Sep 2023
I think she/he means that she/he manages care for frail people, not that she/he is actually fragile.
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I think we need clarification because the wording is ambiguous. Is this person herself frail and a care manager? Or is she a manager for "frail care." I think "frailcare" is a technical term for nursing home and perhaps assisted living level of care. The OP is in South Africa where this term is apparently used, so I'm pretty sure she's not frail herself but is a manager for "frailcare" level residents. https://frailcare.co.za/
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We are an international forum of Caregivers. Most of us resided in the US, then Canada, UK, Australia with other countries chiming in.
We really don't have the information u seek. Our criteria for RNs maybe completely different than your country's. Also, any additional credits you can receive on-line. You must have a Licensing Board for RNs. I would think they have information concerning on-line courses you can take. Our RNs are required to take Continuing Educational Units (CEUs) every year or so to keep up their licence.

Yes, we need to know what problems you are having. You may want to read the questions on the forum. You can learn some things from the families side too. My daughter is an RN. I learned alot from her when my Mom was in care. What I should question and what was best to let go. She also explained the duties of the aids (CNAs, Certified Nurses Assistants) which helped me understand how their day went.
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I think if you are involved in this care for 45 years you recognize that there's nothing on earth you can do to stop the questioning and curiosity and attempts to know what is going on of the family members of a fragile person you are caring for. Sorry, and hope others have advice, but I would say patience is the only virtue I can imagine would help.
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