The nursing home knew she was running a fever for almost 3 weeks. Why wouldn’t they have moved my mother out of that room as soon as they knew she was running a temperature. Is that normal in a home with this virus right now? I don’t understand! I’m furious! I’m scared for my mother,she has dementia/Alzheimers and doesn’t know what’s going on but I have no comfort in that. They can’t test my mother because of right now she’s not sympathetic. Should they be doing more for my mother like fighting to get her tested now? They slept less than 6 feet apart,they, ate at the same table for every meal. Is there anything I can do on my end to help fight for my mother to get tested now?!! Would that even make a difference? Thanks for any advice or comforting words.
PS One thought I am having which may not be of any help is calling your state senator's office (or the state senator in the district including the nursing home, if different), or going to the county's website and finding numbers to call there. Basically checking to see if there is anyone in state or county government where the nursing home is located who is aware of and attempting to deal with an outbreak in this nursing home and how to expedite more testing and isolation for residents.
What state are you in?
My mother is in a Memory Care ALF and if someone gets sick, they will be isolated (she has her own private room) and kept away from the other residents. Her doctor called me a few weeks ago to establish a care plan; what to do IF there is an outbreak at the MC. Did I want her to go to the hospital or stay in house with hospice to keep her comfortable? A care plan is vital, so get in touch with your mom's SNF and see what's going on.
Getting your mom tested now, since I assume what you're saying is she has no symptoms, may make sense since she has been exposed to a positive person for a very extended period of time. But again, you'll need a care plan moving forward in case she does test positive or contract the virus at some point.
I'd call the facility and demand some answers immediately. Wishing you the best of luck and here's a big HUG for you. Such a scary time and a bad situation.
l’m praying not only for my mom but for all the residents,nurses and CNAs. Thanks again for letting me vent. Thanks for all your prayers.
Hugs!!
There is no real point in testing her now. Even if she tests negative, she has definitely been exposed to it and would need to be kept away from the other patients for at least 14 days. I doubt the facility has enough private rooms to do that. And your mom might find that level of isolation very distressing.
All you can do is hope that if your mom develops symptoms, that she is among the large percentage of patients that will recover and hopefully have immunity.
You couldn't have done anything more than you have done to protect her. You have done everything you could.
Call your local Health Dept. Tell them you don't feel guidelines are being observed. You want Mom tested. They should investigate. The dept should be essential personnel.
I am now worried about my daughter. She has had a headache and cough for several days and today she started running fever and losing her breath. She already has to use oxygen at times.
Many of us are going thru this terrified for our families. My girl is in bad health already and her husband and son both go to work and back home every day. If she is infected, then about 14 others in the family have been exposed.
Fivets, keep us updated about your mom please. God has some very large hands to help us. We just have to believe.
If she's six feet away from the person who is ill, eats at the same table and has continued these activities for three weeks close alongside a symptomatic person - how could she have escaped infection?
So either she hasn't caught it and is simply not being exposed, perhaps because she isn't touching her face or feeding herself, something like that; or she has caught it, recovered from it, and developed antibodies. I rather hope so! - because then you definitely have nothing to fear.
PS I replied before reading that your mother's roommate passed away. I am extremely sorry to hear that, not only out of common respect but because it must be upsetting for your mother even if she can't comprehend everything that is happening. I hope the NH is taking good care of her.
My LO’s AL was fastidious in its caution, but the carrier is thought to have been present on her floor and had no symptoms.
Tomorrow will be at least the 15th day of my LO’s illness. It is horrible for me to be away from her, but I’m in a vulnerable age group as well as having a potentially compromised immune system myself, so it would be a while before I could see her anyway.
The testing program here was a farce. If everyone entering the floor had been tested this would not have spread.
I say the Rosary every afternoon Fivets for “those who suffer”. Your mother will certainly be included.
You and others who have found themselves to be in this club that no one wanted to join are always in my thoughts.
Mom’s coronavirus text came back
NEGATIVE!!! We are so blessed!!! GOD IS GREAT! She will be moved out of isolation today and will still be quarantined. Not sure yet if they are stopping the hydroxychloroquine.
We zoomed with her yesterday after this horrible week of not knowing. She looked good but seemed not quite herself but boy was it great to see her sweet face. We should know more by Monday in what happens now. I want to THANK each and everyone for their prayers. I’m praying every day for everyone to stay safe and well. We are still not over the hump yet but by the grace of God we will make it.
A lot of people have already HAD the coronavirus at some point in their lives and have the antibodies for it. This gives hope to a lot of people.
Good for your mom. Although you know she will not live forever, dying alone, in isolation is just cruel fate.
Amazing news! Obviously it will still be very hard, not being able to visit in person so take each day as it comes & look for a little light in each. Today is sunny indeed ☀️☀️
God bless you all.
The pandemic has been the worst ongoing experience many of us have EVER known, and we’ve all been forced to make some very painful decisions.
Bless you and yours for doing the very best you could. May your memories of her grow sweeter with each passing day.