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I never had a Nurse involved with my POA. What can u be doing that is wrong? You pay her rent. Supply her with her toiletries and depends needed. My Moms AL handled her meds. Calling the Dr. Sending prescriptions to their pharmacy. She gets her meals. She is cared for by aides. What can u be doing wrong?
If there was a lawyer that you saw when POA was established contact them and say you wish to rescind your role as POA. Have you talked to your sister about this? It might be possible that all you have to do is send notice to her as well as the facility where mom is living and inform them that you will no longer act as POA. Side note here...You mention mom is in Assisted Living. At some point a move to Memory Care will probably have to be done. You might want to have some input in that.
You can officially resign but I don't know what the legal process is for that in your state and who you would need to inform. Does the other person have a grip on the management for your mom? Are they willing to continue solo? I would inform the other PoA in advance of resigning. If they get upset or freak out you can remind them that they, too, can resign.
Step back and leave the primary to deal with matters. Explain you are not coping with it and need at least a break. Agree the length of time you need to be able to discuss things (probably at least 6 months) and sit down with the Primary at the end of the period and talk through the ways forward. I would not give up completely whilst you are not coping because you can always be taken off a POA but you cannot be added back on with mother having no capability to make the decision. Not everyone is cut out to be POA by a long chalk, and if it turns out you can't then you have to discuss with the Primary if they can. You also need to agree between you whether you will have any input - if you do decide to step down then you will have no right to disagree with any decision they make even if you don't like it.
If you aren't the primary POA and health agent then you don't have to handle anything. The only time you would have to be handling anything is if your mother's primary POA and health agent becomes unable to for some reason.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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I never had a Nurse involved with my POA. What can u be doing that is wrong? You pay her rent. Supply her with her toiletries and depends needed. My Moms AL handled her meds. Calling the Dr. Sending prescriptions to their pharmacy. She gets her meals. She is cared for by aides. What can u be doing wrong?
Have you talked to your sister about this? It might be possible that all you have to do is send notice to her as well as the facility where mom is living and inform them that you will no longer act as POA.
Side note here...You mention mom is in Assisted Living. At some point a move to Memory Care will probably have to be done. You might want to have some input in that.
Not everyone is cut out to be POA by a long chalk, and if it turns out you can't then you have to discuss with the Primary if they can. You also need to agree between you whether you will have any input - if you do decide to step down then you will have no right to disagree with any decision they make even if you don't like it.
The only time you would have to be handling anything is if your mother's primary POA and health agent becomes unable to for some reason.