My mother is 82 and driving me mad with all her silly comments. When you tell her you are worried about losing your job she laughs and is now saying Covis as she calls it, is changing the weather and it’s the virus that’s making April cold. I get angry with her and tell her to stop being silly. I’m getting that I don’t want to listen to her anymore and she is driving me mad. Is it just me? I just can’t agree with her when she comes away with stupid comments. She lives by herself and has Carers. Her statement today was that one of her Carers has taken her sterident for false teeth 🤦♀️ and I get angry and tell her that nobody is going to steal that rubbish from her and she disagrees with me saying she knows best arghhhhhh
Things with your mothers mind will only continue to get worse, so if you're wanting to continue to be in her life, you're going to have to figure out how to deal with her without the anger. The easiest solution at this point, would be just to agree with her, no matter how silly it may seem or sound to you, as there is no reasoning with a brain that is broken. I wish you well.
I know these annoying, silly comments from mom are signs that her brain is not working as it used to. We don’t have long conversations and I’ve set up boundaries because I don’t want to feel angry at her all the time.
Repeat to myself “it’s the disease”.
She has cares, so you do not need to be at her beck and call.
It is okay to set and enforce boundaries for dealing with your aged parents, dementia or not.
She will also tell me things like the caregivers have stolen her old bras, as if young girls would WANT a 94 year old woman's old used brassieres! Come on! But then, you really just can't argue with dementia b/c it just causes even MORE arguing since they insist on being right all the time! If I say black, she says white; then I'll agree it's white and she's saying it was gray all along. So, I'll get off the phone before my head explodes! :)
Try sticking to 'neutral' subjects (if there is such a thing) and let all the gibberish roll of your back as much as you possibly can. Maybe cut down the amount of contact you have with mom, or take a 'vacation' for a week; I've been known to tell mine that DH and I are going to the mountains for a week away from everything and will be incommunicado when I need a rest from all the insanity that comes with dementia!
Good luck!