How do I stop my outbursts?

court update: I was found not guilty. my public defender did a good job. The deputy and witnesses had conflicting testimony. the lady judge was sympathetic.
What a great relief. thank all for the support.

jmczzz - I really hope that when you go in front of a judge and explain to him/her that you are sincerely looking to get help for your outbursts, the judge will try to get you help for you mental health, and not give you jail time.

If everyone went to jail for badmouthing people or angry outbursts...the whole world would be in jail! Go for a walk when you feel yourself getting mad 😡..ask your dr for some Valium..Hugs 🤗

I was going to ask if you had been checked for a UTI, but it looks like this has been going on for more than a year. Have you asked your doctor if there could be a physical reason contributing to your difficulty? Can they give you a list of your diagnosed conditions and required medications in case you need it?

What can you do before Monday?
- If you have a hearing aid that you don't like to use, put a fresh battery in it and practice with it. Wear it for court. (A common issue here.)
- Read a book (or at least the three most relevant chapters) on anger management.
- Reflect on the kinds of situations where you experience the issue. Can you avoid similar locations, types of people, inhibition relaxing substances, or emotionally charged situations?
- Learn techniques to divert your impulse to have an outburst before it escalates. Affirmation statement? EFT tapping? Something from the book?

Keep pursuing psychological help. Maybe medication can work. I'm not impressed with a counselor that would say that to someone who already has marital and legal problems from the issue.

Your age places you at higher risk from Covid. Maybe that will make the judge more interested in alternatives to jail?

Go to your local library, and ask what they have for senior citizens... Maybe there are books, programs , or social events,that may help you... books on tape,,, You don't have to like the whole world.... just a little bit of it... and start at the library... It's usually quiet.... Talk with someone... If you have a CD player or MP3 player, or, they may have something you can rent. Someone there will help you navigate the library.... An show you how to access on line in your own home... :)

drink green macha tea with a squirt of lemon.. breathe... apologize to your wife. dont care what the issue was or who started it..... apologize... that is a really hard thing for some to do.....

YOu can think it, but you don't have to say it out loud... Just smile, and say to your self :;; "unbelievable" and "forgive me" and turn away... smile...
As a friend told me, you do not have to accept every invitation you are invited to, and that includes arguments... kind hard to have an argument if you walk away....

and start walking 5 minutes a day... yes, just 5... work your way up...

ask for another counselor...

Sorry but I think you need more than the library right now. I'm with JoAnn; you need to hurry up & make an appointment with a Neurologist or at least your Primary Care Doctor for a battery of tests to see WHAT is going on with you that you 'hate the world', your wife has kicked you out and you're having emotional outbursts to the degree that you're facing possible JAIL time now. Obviously something has gone haywire inside of your body, and you can have anything from a brain tumor to 100 other medical conditions that you are not qualified to diagnose yourself from a self-help book.

Make the phone call TODAY and that's the first step to asking for the help you need, my friend.

Best of luck

thank you all for your concern enough to write a reply. I am a Vet and was treated for PTSD 30+ years ago. it seems to me the suppressed terror is reemerging hooked to any thing perceived as a threat. I did discuss this with my primary Fnp. I also am doing the V A on line anger mang. course AIM that was suggested. i have worked on i d ing my triggers and have come up with the sensations of a threat. even just reading screenname's rather smug post got a rise to about a 6.
I also realize now this is not a forum for patients but for caregivers. i apologize for interrupting your discussions. Just to have a place to ask gave me relief when i posted my how to question. Thank you all for your kindness.

Jmczz; thank you for your service, sir.

Please stay and let us know how you are getting on.

We care.

You were in service during the Vietnam era, right?

So it is fair to consider the possibility that whether or not you had good treatment for your PTSD in the past, you may very well benefit from a fresh course of services, including diagnosis and medication and counseling.

You can benefit from some compassionate supervision. If you have access to a computer, find out the contact info for your local VA CRISIS CENTER, then contact them. RIGHT NOW. You are entitled to help. You PAID for the help you need. Connect with the VA TODAY.