Mom has lived with me for 7 years first 3 years were good. Then her demanding nature took affect and now 4 years later we are walking on egg shells in our home. I need to put her in a home as I cannot take care of her and all 10 specialists she has to see. I am going to have serious back surgery and will be down for 3-6 months, and my husband has a hard time taking care of me, mom, our dog and himself for that matter. Any and all ideas and suggestions appreciated. Yes I have applied for Medicaid we are in the process of having caseworker come out to do assessment.
Don’t neglect to get your own paperwork in order.
Good luck with Medicaid and with your surgery.
When is your surgery scheduled?
You sit down with her and the family diary, and you point to the dates and say "this is when I'm going to St Saviours, this is when I go to rehab, this is when I should be recovered. Meanwhile, this is when you are going to stay at Sunshine Horizons and you are booked in for x weeks initially*."
That's plenty of information for her to absorb in one go. She will have questions and arguments: you answer those which have a sensible answer, and pat her hand reassuringly in reply to the others. Do you know which ALF?
* this is not a lie. It's the truth, but there can't be a whole truth because nobody can foresee the future.
Thanks for all suggestions