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I am reaching out to those who know, did you get your mother to shower or bathe. She is adamant that her sink clean up and powder is enough. Suggestions?
didiblue, as we age it becomes more difficult to do things that we use to do without any problems. I know for myself, even though I am only in my 70's, I find taking a shower can be exhausting, I felt like I was at the gym for an hour :P
Some elders becomes claustrophobic to the shower itself. Some elders don't like the way the water feels when it is falling on them as one's skin tends to thin as we age. And there is always that fear of falling.
Does Mom's "bird bath" do the trick? You could also get her adult or baby wipes to use on places where a washcloth and water may be tricky. Some wipes have a pleasant smell. I use those when I am in a rush when time got away from me.
didiblue, can you give us a little more background? Is she living on her own, or is she resisting caregivers? Resisting you? Is she still mobile enough to stand and balance in a shower or get into a tub? Is her vision without glasses sufficient to allow that? Has someone recently checked her skin for lesions or bruises? Is she cleaning her “lady parts”? Can you watch one episode of the “spit bath” to see if she’s accomlishing a good cleaning? Is what you’re asking her to do reasonable at her stage?
For 6 years in independent living, My Mom resisted her caregivers 2x week shower. It was a war. I finally settled on 1x week, so only a skirmish. Now at her NH I used to go in on shower day and jokingly ask “OK, which aide do I need to apologize to?” They laughed it off, but asked me to try to keep her nails trimmed. Yikes. Some residents love their shower, some hate it. One told me “they took me outside this morning, took my clothes off, and sprayed me with a hose!” And these are very caring aides but the trauma in the ladies heads is real. I think Mom has gotten over her resistance, but it’s taken a long time. This aversion to water is VERY common.
If you don't think she's getting the job done at the sink maybe try a bed bath. She can be under the covers except the area that's being washed. Lots of towels to dry off each area after being washed and then get her into come clean and fresh jammies. Maybe have a little soft music playing and moisturize her with scented lotion. You can help make it an experience as opposed to a chore.
Mom is in a wonderful assisted living with my equally uncooperative father. We are planning a care conference for both. We are discovering other behaviors consistent with Alzheimer’s such as hiding dirty clothes or washing by hand. Fortunately I have 3 other sibs who are involved but none of us can get her to bathe or shower.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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Some elders becomes claustrophobic to the shower itself. Some elders don't like the way the water feels when it is falling on them as one's skin tends to thin as we age. And there is always that fear of falling.
Does Mom's "bird bath" do the trick? You could also get her adult or baby wipes to use on places where a washcloth and water may be tricky. Some wipes have a pleasant smell. I use those when I am in a rush when time got away from me.
For 6 years in independent living, My Mom resisted her caregivers 2x week shower. It was a war. I finally settled on 1x week, so only a skirmish. Now at her NH I used to go in on shower day and jokingly ask “OK, which aide do I need to apologize to?” They laughed it off, but asked me to try to keep her nails trimmed. Yikes. Some residents love their shower, some hate it. One told me “they took me outside this morning, took my clothes off, and sprayed me with a hose!” And these are very caring aides but the trauma in the ladies heads is real. I think Mom has gotten over her resistance, but it’s taken a long time. This aversion to water is VERY common.