It is grating and mom won't allow anyone else in. I need some personal time. I need to work on my duplex and make it available to me when she is gone and when I leave and she has a fainting spell or 'tia' I'm not there, nor anyone else. I am angry and we are stuck in our ways.
Full time caregiving is not possible alone. If it was, nursing homes wouldn't have to hire so many people to do the job, or have them work in shifts.
Your mind and body are saying you need help, so you better listen.
Nobody likes the idea of moving their loved one into care, but it is absolutely necessary in many cases. Especially for those of us who work and have a person with advanced dementia.
Dementia does not heal or go into remission. It only gets worse and worse and worse until death. If this current stage is killing you, I'm sorry to say it only gets worse.
I hope you can find somewhere for your loved ones.
I too am wondering if the fainting spells are legit. If they are legit then perhaps she gets herself so worked up her blood pressure goes up so when she stands it drops and she faints. If it's faked then perhaps she just needs to learn it's not going to gain her anything to pretend to faint and that if she didn't do that, you might be more happy to be near her by her side. No idea how sick your mom is but you might be able to bribe her. Sometimes with my grandma I can bribe her with a snack or a fire in the fire place or a heater in the bathroom to get her to do the things she needs to have done. When she's offered a snack and a warm heater in the bathroom, she perks up and looks forward to that going off happily with the caregiver for her bath. When she's told the fire will be on in the fireplace in the living room she happily moves from the bedroom to the living room with a smile. She has dementia though so might be different for someone who isn't at the bribing stage.