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Hi Kathy, Does she leave the house? If so maybe she'll care if you tell her you can smell an odor coming from her. Show her some dust and tell her it's mostly skin cells. Explain that the cells are also in her clothes and they carry a nasty smell....Good luck, but if she doesn't get it, hit her clothes with some Fabreese, not while she's wearing them. Lol 😉
Great idea, Shakingdustoff!! My brother has 3 sons and he drops all of their play clothes, PJ's and school uniforms off to the laundromat. He does this once a week and only pays $20 bucks each time.
Kathy, you can do this once a month for $20 bucks!
Well now a few days is one thing. Months is something else. Time for you to try something different. You did mention pjs so does she change into pjs at night? Might be a chance for you to scoop up the pjs with her bed linens and wash “ by accident”? Does she allow her bed linens to be washed? Does she bathe? Would she be ready to throw out all her other clothes as in she has decided she will never change? Would she be interested in trying on a new outfit? Has she been given new pjs and she won’t consider those? What would happen if you “accidently” got her dirty? Leaky glass of milk or sugary drink?how about you go into her room when she is asleep and simply leave fresh clothes out and remove the dirty ones? You can always beg forgiveness. Would she dress differently to go out? For company? What if you made a big deal out of covering any furniture she sat on with a washable cover or refused to eat at the table with her? Does she have a mental condition that affects other areas of her life? Since she changes her underwear that is a blessing. I think the fact that she wears the same thing at some point makes the rest of your house dirty. Dead skin etc. I think it probably will have to come down to your house your rules if she is just being stubborn. But do stop doing whatever you are doing as it doesn’t work. It’s sad but true that people who take a little care with their appearance are treated better. My sister used to say my mom needed a haircut. I would look at my mom who had beautiful thick white wavy hair and think “ really? Why??” But then when I saw her with the haircut I’d think she looked more rested and like she felt better. I noticed it affected my mood when I was around her. So I might be thinking that regardless of how dirty her clothes actually are it does affect her care. Good luck and let us know what finally works for you.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
My brother has 3 sons and he drops all of their play clothes, PJ's and school uniforms off to the laundromat. He does this once a week and only pays $20 bucks each time.
Kathy, you can do this once a month for $20 bucks!
Time for you to try something different. You did mention pjs so does she change into pjs at night? Might be a chance for you to scoop up the pjs with her bed linens and wash “ by accident”?
Does she allow her bed linens to be washed?
Does she bathe?
Would she be ready to throw out all her other clothes as in she has decided she will never change? Would she be interested in trying on a new outfit? Has she been given new pjs and she won’t consider those?
What would happen if you “accidently” got her dirty? Leaky glass of milk or sugary drink?how about you go into her room when she is asleep and simply leave fresh clothes out and remove the dirty ones? You can always beg forgiveness.
Would she dress differently to go out? For company?
What if you made a big deal out of covering any furniture she sat on with a washable cover or refused to eat at the table with her?
Does she have a mental condition that affects other areas of her life?
Since she changes her underwear that is a blessing. I think the fact that she wears the same thing at some point makes the rest of your house dirty. Dead skin etc. I think it probably will have to come down to your house your rules if she is just being stubborn.
But do stop doing whatever you are doing as it doesn’t work.
It’s sad but true that people who take a little care with their appearance are treated better. My sister used to say my mom needed a haircut. I would look at my mom who had beautiful thick white wavy hair and think “ really? Why??” But then when I saw her with the haircut I’d think she looked more rested and like she felt better. I noticed it affected my mood when I was around her.
So I might be thinking that regardless of how dirty her clothes actually are it does affect her care. Good luck and let us know what finally works for you.