Guilt feelings stink. My sister is a teacher, 5 days a week. Its just me. I keep having these feelings of a explosion about to go off in my head, I went to get my mail yesterday and she was snooping through my personal things when I got home. She has refused to unpack her boxes, I did a few while she was gone on Saturday. They are now rearranged and packed again. I feel hopeless....
AL will eat her money up fast, so a lot depends on whether she will eventually qualify for Medicaid in your state. Find out what she needs to do to qualify and stay on top of that.
Unless your sister or someone else can relieve you for more time and you can separate your life from your mother a little, you really need to change this dynamic. Ask your sister to help you figure it out.
You can be a wonderful daughter with your mom in a different home and you having your own life. This situation isn't good for either of you in the long run.
Take care of yourself,
Carol