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If it's limiting, be considerate of the guidelines the caregiving sibling has set. Is there any reason you couldn't manage that?
If it's preventing, what reason does the sibling give?
Whatever is happening and however you decide to proceed, remember that this is not about your right to see your parent, it's about your parent's right to contact with his or her children.
Agree with Countrymouse's limiting v. preventing observation. If your sibling isn't the PoA for your parent, I don't see why you can't go over there for a visit if you are being prevented from seeing her. If she has her right mind, she can decide who she sees and doesn't. If you are concerned for her welfare then you can request the police stop by to check, which will unnerve your sibling and not score points. Further concern would warrant reporting her to APS as a vulnerable adult to get her on their radar. But if this sibling IS her PoA (and can prove it), it's another story unless you have actual evidence (and not just an opinion) that he/she is mismanaging or abusing her.
I agree with both posts here. It should be about what is best overall for the parent. It’s sort of like parents who use children as pawns in a divorce, which is sad. So many people divorce and still have an amicable relationship regarding the children.
The only reason a child should not see a parent is due to abuse. Otherwise, if the relationship is respectful of everyone, the children deserve to be with both parents. The same should apply to grandparents, aunts and uncles. My brother has married four times. I am on friendly terms with all the wives and my nieces and nephews. They tell me, “We divorced your brother, not you! You will always be in our lives.”
I think sometimes non primary care siblings feel that the caregiver sibling is limiting their access but it is only their perspective. I know at my home, any visits need to be communicated the day before, reason being it is my home and I may have other things planned. I have refused visits when my family has plans to come over or the day I had my driveway repaved. On those days, they can take the elder with them but they are not welcome to visit here.
Absolutely! Common courtesy goes a long way! No one should expect the world only to revolve around them. People should respect the caregiver’s needs and schedule.
It seems absolutely nothing. All I know is as much as I love dad, I look forward to the day when the main caregiver can no longer use him (as did with mom) simply because sibling disliked me. Because by then he two will have taken his rest and then....
Wishing families could live in harmony but it has to be wanted by everyone...
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
If it's limiting, be considerate of the guidelines the caregiving sibling has set. Is there any reason you couldn't manage that?
If it's preventing, what reason does the sibling give?
Whatever is happening and however you decide to proceed, remember that this is not about your right to see your parent, it's about your parent's right to contact with his or her children.
The only reason a child should not see a parent is due to abuse. Otherwise, if the relationship is respectful of everyone, the children deserve to be with both parents.
The same should apply to grandparents, aunts and uncles. My brother has married four times. I am on friendly terms with all the wives and my nieces and nephews. They tell me, “We divorced your brother, not you! You will always be in our lives.”
It’s nice when we are able to live in harmony.
I think sometimes non primary care siblings feel that the caregiver sibling is limiting their access but it is only their perspective. I know at my home, any visits need to be communicated the day before, reason being it is my home and I may have other things planned. I have refused visits when my family has plans to come over or the day I had my driveway repaved. On those days, they can take the elder with them but they are not welcome to visit here.
Wishing families could live in harmony but it has to be wanted by everyone...