Which is better, a third party organization where their lawyer steps in for a fee and supposedly speeds things up or go directly to veterans administration. I have contact numbers for both. The fee is supposed to be a flat fee of $750. 00, worth it or not? My mom is 93 with Parkinson's. I feel it is time for assisted living. I'm worn out and have no time for me or my family. I have neglected myself. I need to get my life back and I truly desire to be a daughter to my mom again, instead of her full time caregiver. I fully intend to be involved in her life while she is at the facility. I would never abandon her. I just need a healthy balance in my life. Please share your thoughts with me. Thanks. How long does it take to get this ball rolling? My dad was a world war II vet so she would qualify for spousal benefits.
Thanks, okay, one more question if you don't mind? When you say, Elder attorney team, would you recommend using a separate Elder attorney not affiliated with this 3rd party group that Brookdale Assisted Living Facility uses, it is called Patriot Angels. Do you prefer one of our local attorney teams in our area? I'm looking at three assisted living places, two are cooperate and the other is owned by independent investors. The other two gave me the numbers for local veterans organization.
Your Mom would be fast tracked given her age. Fast Tracked means...waiting a year or 2 instead of 3 or 4 YEARS. Usually you can get AnA in about a year from time you first applied.
What you need is an atty who specializes in VA benefits-not just Elder Law. DO NOT go the VSO route. Just don't do it. Skip the AmLegion and all those sorts of places, they want to drink and tell stories and not help your veteran or family.
I come from a long line of military people, that includes both parents and DH..and let me tell you this. The VA will make you ashamed that your loved ones ever served because their whole purpose in life is to kill your veteran (or spouse) and deny them benefits. They do do everything that they can do to kill them off quickly so they do not have to pay them anything. And this, sadly, verified by my own experience as well as much reading and attys telling us this...is the American way. :( I am happy to say we survived the biggest part of this battle though I am pretty sure I aged 100 years...but it is still ongoing and took MANY years to resolve WITH the help of an atty.
The VA is pure, sheer, raw, EVIL. No two people will EVER tell you the same thing, EVER.
I would first contact your local VA office. Usually located at the County Seat. I would apply through their rep. If turned down, then I would find a lawyer who is versed in VA rules. I would not go thru a third party. It has been said on this site, that they try to get you to invest money with them. I don't see what they could do that a good VA rep can't.
Wishing you well.
I did help one of my patient’s spouse but just printed out the ppwk for her. She filled it out and sent it in, was told (as another reader said as well) that she needed one more piece of paper to apply. She produced it. They were declined.
That man was in the Vietnam war and did see combat so I have no idea why they were rejected. I was so disappointed for them. He is 77 y/o and his wife is exhausted taking care of him. Their son stole their retirement money for drugs and they now have no assets except their house.
I don’t think it’s an easy process to apply for unless you have all the necessary ppwk and are essentially indigent. Shameful we treat our vets like this.
I sincerely hope you get the results you need for your mom via the VA.
Good luck.
My dad also was denied because he has more than 2 acres of land!! It's a shame because he worked hard all his life for what little bit he has.
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