I think my mom is an attention seeker and loves drama.

I'm exasperated with my elderly mom. She used to live with my sister, her husband and two kids in the US. I'm in Mexico with my partner on a small homestead. Unbeknown to me it wasn't working with my sister. I know my mom is a difficult character. They more or less threw her out and I picked up the pieces helping her sort her life out. Neither my sister, her kids nor my other sister or her son speak to my mom any more. She's also fallen out with her only cousin.I offered my mom to come here, but since our place is only one bed she could stay in an apartment locally or live on site in our large and comfy 5th wheeler with all mod cons. She wanted to be on site so she could help in the homestead, with the vegetable garden, be in nature etc etc.I said she'd need to be competent on her phone as it's her only link to the outside world, plus she'd need to look after herself and be independent. Our terrain isn't suitable for someone with poor mobility.She's been her six months and I've got no more emotional energy left. She sits inside all day for days, does nothing, then I tell her to go for a walk and do some exercise and the next day she's out trying to walk miles to the nearest village. It's one extreme to the next. Then I have to talk to her about moderation and pacing and she's in tears and the victim and I'm the bad guy. She wears a fleece, heavy jeans and hat in 75F and I suggest she change clothes and gets some sun and then she's out with no protection, suncream, hat, or drink in 95F midday sun for hours and I have to tell her to go inside and we have tears again because I tell her she's being irresponsible. She's a university educated and professional woman. Because she said she wanted to participate in the garden, I gave her her own small 2mx2m area for pleasure and experimenting, but she did less than zero over three months and it lay empty, so when I brought it up she was out the next day for hours in inclement weather, until after dark and I have to intervene. Then everything was a struggle... the hosepipe is too heavy, the nozzle won't turn, the watering can won't do, the fence is too difficult to open.. what I'm trying to say is that everything was a struggle and she constantly complained, huffed and puffed, so we took the area off her hands and then there was a huge drama because she loved doing the garden and is devastated because it's been confiscated. Nothing is right... The leaves falling off the trees, the pollen on her car, the dirt on the ground. I live in the countryside. She wanted to come here.Her van has a cassette container for black water that needs emptying and I discovered she's going out into the garden to the toilet, and during the night. I confronted her and she lied to my face. We have snakes and predators. It isn't safe. She refuses to shower. She's emotional about missing the family when we were all kids 40 years ago. I suggested counselling. She gets mad. I realise she has used me as an emotional support for decades. As a teenager she'd tell me she wished she'd never met my father. She'd say she was leaving us and then nothing was ever mentioned again and I'd be left wondering. When I was eleven she said she might have cancer and then it was never mentioned again and I wondered for years if she was ok. In my twenties she'd offload about my father.. he's a coward, he's a liar, etc.She wrote me a suicide note last year and told me she had had enough and was going to end it. Then when I panicked and responded to it, she said she didn't mean it and I was being silly.I don't know how to deal with the her and wonder whether the deliberate neglect is attention seeking behaviour to draw me into a conversation. I'm unable to reason with her as everything is turned round where she is the victim and she is being blamed.