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Of course you should take a break! There is no point in burning out. You count too!

Best of luck to you.
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KROGER123456 Oct 2020
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Yes. Do it. That would be my advice. By try to think of the best WAY to do this and the repercussions of doing it.
Give notice of at least one month that you will be moving to your own place and will not be able to continue care. Are you hoping to do ANY care going forward? If so, tell them what hours you would be available, what their costs would be. Be paid, and pay taxes on the money you receive as salary. If you would rather go on with education and/or job then do so. The longer you delay then the more difficult this will be. 7 years is a long time. You deserve your own life. DO KNOW that what is now seeming a godsend of a good friend giving you a real break on cost of living may not last, so be ready to be on your own, working and paying rent.
If there is argument just don't "go there". Just say you are sorry, you know this is difficult for them, but that you must think now of yourself and your own life. Wishing you luck. Hoping you will update us.
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KROGER123456 Oct 2020
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Surprised you have not burned out long before this.

I believe you have been given a gift too. I am not a religious person. per say, but maybe God is trying to say, its time to move on. If this woman has had Dementia for 7 years, she probably now needs LTC. Take this opportunity and step away from caregiving for a while. Find something different for now.

Looks like one sister is on your side.
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KROGER123456 Oct 2020
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Is it possible to still retain the job you have but cut the hours to a 6 or 7 hour day? Someone else can take the remaining hours that a caregiver is necessary.
This way you can have your space. You can relax, decompress and not have to worry about being awoken at 3 am to do what ever needed to be done.
You can take the hours that you have for yourself and begin to look for other work in whatever field you want. Or you can take some classes at the local Community College.
But if you feel that it would be best for you to fully step back do so. Or take a 2 or 3 week vacation then return to the caregiving job but again only for limited hours. (Unless during your vacation you find a job)
With all the suggestions you are going to get do what you feel is going to be right. Trust your Gut instinct
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KROGER123456 Oct 2020
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As I’m in your shoes with my mom I totally understand where you’re coming from. You’ve been faithful in caring for her. You’ve been offered a gift, a blessing. Take it! I’m sure she’ll be placed in a good & safe place. You can visit her anytime & get your life back at the same time. Let me know what you decide!
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KROGER123456 Oct 2020
Hello Mom only child Thank you sorry your going through ths But thanks understanding and the encouragement Caregiving in such a stressfull job But we try to do our best for are love ones Like you are ans it sounds like you a only child I have lost both my parents And i took care of them so i understand the sacfrice we make Will im going to move to that apartment And it will be a fresh start And i need that and it time Thank you
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Your sister is correct: you need to take care of you first, before you burn out. Your in-law will need to solve the problem of care for her mother, not you. It's not your responsibility. And you are correct that she will need to be placed eventually, anyway. Give her about 1 month's notice and then whether or not she's solved her care problem, move out and have your own life!
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