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My 86-year-old mother has dementia, but most of the time (thankfully) is aware when she needs to go to the bathroom. I've got her wearing Depends anyway, because she still has an occasional accident and she does dribble frequently which makes all her pants smell like urine. (She hadn't been wearing any underwear at all, so I was washing her sweatpants every day.)


So she doesn't fight me with the Depends, but they are too bulky for what she needs and she does mention that they aren't very comfortable. I know I could try some pads in her regular underwear, but I'm pretty sure she will want to pull them out. So I think it would be easier to stick with pull-ups, but can't seem to find any that aren't so bulky and heavily padded. Thoughts? Recommendations?

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If you don't mind washing them there are several cotton reusable incontinence panties available. I have seen them on Amazon even. But if you want disposables have you tried the newer "slim" or "sleek" type? I know Depends makes some, I'm not sure about other brands but they are designed to be worn under more fitted pants for instance. Also I found that sizing down in size on the regular daily Depends made them much more comfortable for Mom, she too was feeling they were bulky before I tried that. Now she wears the nighttime super absorbent at night because the daytime version doesn't hold enough and then the daytime during waking hours. I think they have a choice of absorbency, though I get them in bulk now for her from Costco because they are so much more affordable that way. I have the nighttime type set up on auto delivery with Prime for the same reason. I'm not trying to sell the Depends, I really think fit and preference varies with each person, it's such an individual thing and the brand that feels good for Mom may not be the same as it is for your mom so there is some trial and error to find the one that'd just right. Good luck!
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AnnMarie520 Apr 2019
Thanks for the tip! I hadn't seen the "slim" or "sleek" versions of Depends. I was looking at Wal-Mart, but everything was super absorbency or overnight absorbency. I couldn't even find anything regular absorbency for everyday. I'm willing to try any brand as long as I can find something that fits her and is comfortable for her. I'll look online and at Costco. Thanks!
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Have you tried the incontinence pads? Tena and Always Discreet both make a variety of lengths and absorbancies and are commonly available.
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AnnMarie520 Apr 2019
I know I can try pads, but I'm sure she's going to want to pull them out. So pull-ups would be better, but I might have to go with pads. . .
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There are some pull-up briefs that have a partly enclosed pouch for a pad. You could use thinner panty liners or thicker pads, and they wouldn't be so likely to be removed. The briefs are often advertised here on mail-order brochures aimed at the elderly. The brief fabric of the pouch would get wet, but if the pad was changed regularly the smell would have less time to develop. Could be worth a try.
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AnnMarie520 Apr 2019
Thank you! I will look into these.
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What about the new Period Panties that are on the market? They are expensive, but washable and get good reviews.

Apparently you can wear them all day during your period and not leak. They may be just the ticket for your mother.
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AnnMarie520 Apr 2019
Thank you! I hadn't heard of these. I'll definitely look into them.
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