My brother had a stroke in Baltimore, his girlfriend sends him to Washington DC, where common-law is exercised and not next of kin. The family has no say so, what can we do? She wants him home with her, and that is not in his best interest. Washington DC does not care. They say we should communicate and it is not their problem. Why send him somewhere that is not best for his recovery?Help
Please note only the doctors in Baltimore can refer your brother to MedStar, it's not likely his girlfriend on the fly decided he should go there.
Hospitals would refer only "one person" be the spokespeople for the patient, not the whole family. Therefore, it is the significant other who came with your brother to the hospital.
I would say, work as a team with the girlfriend, fighting among everyone is not in your brother's best interest.
I remember when my Dad had a heart attack. My Mom refused to have him go live in Rehab so he could gain his strength. Thus, Mom took Dad home and she thought in her mind it was the best for him. Dad did improve but it was a very slow improvement compared to if he had around the clock care at rehab. Thus, even married folks can disagree with doctors suggestions and other family members [which was me].
What does he want? GF to care for him or family? Its not unusual to live in Baltimore and be placed in a DC hospital if he can get better care there. Its only 50 minutes away.