I hope someone can help. My mother does most of her own laundry. Sometimes she will wash her underwear with an incontinence pad still in place. I try to make sure the pads are removed, but she can be too fast for me at times. The pads that she uses break down and turn to fluff in the dryer and fill the vent filter completely. The dryer is old, so some probably gets in the vent. I worry about fires. Getting the vent cleaned often is very expensive, so I wondered if there was a pad that didn't break down so easily.
I thought you meant bed pads..
Google reusable incontinence pads.. I just saw some on line..
A panty liner could be okay. The pads are really just in case she can't make it to the bathroom in time. It has happened and the pads give her more confidence. I think that's the thing -- more confidence. I can understand that. I know I would be mortified if I wet my pants in public.