My sister feels that since I was named POA that it is my job to drive my mother to where ever my sister wants her to be. She insists this is the job of a POA. For example, if she wants my mother to go to a holiday function at her home I MUST drive her because it is my job as POA. My mother cares for herself, lives on her own and handles all her financials. POA has not even been enforced since it does not need to be, but she still insists it is my job to drop everything, give up my holiday plans and drive my mother to her town for her function.
What other big whoppers has your sister tried to get you to believe over the years?
Tell you sister to pound sand.
Now if you are invited to the holiday gathering at your isters, she could politely ask you to pick up Mum and bring her with you. But that has nothing at all to do with POA.
As a POA you don't "have" to care for your Mom. The financial responsibility gives you the ability to pay her bills, sell her home or car, etc. Medical to make decisions about her health when she can't. My Moms Med. POA read like a living will. What she did and did not want.
But, you don't have to become Moms caregiver. But you will need to keep Mom safe, clean, fed and cared for even if that means an AL or NH.
Just tell sister that POA does not make you a taxi. That if she needs Mom somewhere that you r not invited to, she needs to make arrangements to have Mom picked up. You do not give up your plans.
You are going to need some help dealing with narcissist sister, if she is one.
You do not believe what she tells you......maybe that would help.
A caregiver/POA can arrange to have others help, and these chores can be less expensive than hiring caregivers to come in the home.
1) Transportation
2) Rides to medical appointments
3) Meals delivered
However, your sister is out of line ordering you around at all!
You will just have to learn to say no, I cannot possibly do that!
Keep listening to her and you will go c r a z y .
What your sister "feels" is irrelevent. What's written down is what counts.