It’s impossible to find senior living where my parents can stay together. One needs assisted living and the other memory care. Any suggestions?

KerryMoore, welcome to the forum. Excellent question. Keep looking. Check with the larger nationwide communities to see if they have facilities where parents can live together even though parents have different needs.

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You can probably find a facility that has assisted living and MC but they probably won't be able to share an apartment because it is two completely different level of cares. Best bet is to find a facility that has both where he can walk over and visit her whenever he wants to.

There is no such place, really, bc each situation requires different skill sets from the caregivers. If you were to have them both living together in AL, then the big burden of mom's care would fall on dad which isn't fair to him or safe for the AL to agree to.

Ask the advisors on the right of your screen if they know of a board and care residence that may be able to accommodate your folks.

Best of luck to you

Not sure about that. MC is locked down for residents safety. An AL not so much. Is Dad capable of caring for Mom to the point he will make sure she doesn't wander right out the front door. Is it that he just needs help with her bathing, toileting and dressing? If he is there to "keep an eye on her", then maybe she can live in the AL section. He will actually have some freedom to join in activities and outings. Maybe when he is not there, she can be taken to the MC side where she is watched more closely then go back to AL side when he returns.

My SILs father had ALZ and her Mom didn't. They lived in the same apt.