i cant seem to get a straight answer-no one seems to know how to deal with this without adding to her dementia and health problems.i am very frustrated and angry. i feel like i want to scream and yell at these doctors-her primary, here at home and the ones inMass. at the jewish geriatric nursing home-where she was taken2daysafter surgery to thatnursing home 4 hours away ,isolated,and no one there thatsheknows.i cant get a satisfactory answer to basic questions- and i find i dont get a real report of whats going on, when i finally do get to speak with someone from the staff. i get this rosy, phoney,oh shes doing fine-obviously incorrect answers-like i am some idiot or they are idiots- or they just want to get me off the phone.this has been driving me crazy- its gotten worse since my brotherwas given complete POA-and has been an a@#!!!!!!i havetried to accept the fact thatit iswhat it is- however last nite i found out that she has had thisfistula since shearrived,and has been subjected to being changed and wiped every 2 hours-which is sopainful since she is sore- i never knew this- i cant believe that nothing is being done-she screams and fight every time sheis changed, there has to be a better way- i dont think she is getting proper care-maybe nothing can be done-but atleast they can give her something forpain- and not haldol-which she is on 3 times a day- im just disgusted and dont knowwhat to do. if anyone has any ideas, or words of wisdom, please send them this way- i think i am ready to collapse!!!!
I am an assertive woman and wont take no for an answer,so much so that they call me for any updates . They respect my knowledge NOW! Step up to the plate and show them who is in charge,and if you dont agree...TELL THEM! They work for you not the other way around. Ask questions,put your foot down and most of all never throw the towel in. Blessings Virginia
good advise- i have chkd the place on line-lookedup records from state departments,etc
the last time they were inspected was 2005- and nothing after 2009- now we are 2011- so how accurate is this info?
and when i looked up how they did these inspections, how they were rated and how tthey rated he doctors, it was clear to me, it wasnt like they actually spoke to the doctors or checked out where they parcticed-it wasnt done with any great acuracy. as far as i could tell ,
it was very dissapointing to see how they rate these places-actually it is disgraceful!
they only will go back5 yrs ,asfar as complaints- maybe thats enough- but i didnt find it very satisifying even after looking up as much as i could.
i am usually quite outspoken and ask many questions. i alsways have-
but since this last incident- and her being taken up to mass. and me not having poa- it has kind of knocked the confidence out of me, because my gut has told me the truth all along,about many things ,especially in dealing with moms situation.
and now, i am questioning everything-including myself - thats not good- not for me-
but i have to keep pushing- i cant accept not knowing whats up, and being exculded just makes me over emotional and suspicious and diffiuclt- especially to me-
thank you for your post-
it helps ..
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Karen
What site did you use to find the records for the home. Please share it with me and others.
Blessings Virginia
I will say that both realistic and unrealistic fear of HIPAA - as well as the ability to use it for an excuse - has led to even more ridiculous withholding of information that does nothing but cause more harm.