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Aafter being sole caregiver of mother for 11 years, I was not given any time to remove any of my personal belongings from mother's home before all other siblings started arriving for their collection period. Which I did help along since my brother who is head of trust lived out of state and did not even show up until months later. I caused no problems with other siblings as I wanted to honor mother's wishes. The problem is that I had not been working except for4 days per month. So when she passed I had no money of my own. There was a small life insurance policy for me, but it took time to recieve those funds. I could not get out within the 30 days. It took me about 70 days. I had a full household of my own personal items (mom's house was 5401 Sq ft), I also had a rental for myself but had to give roommates notice to move out before I could move back in. Thru out my time at mom's house I was still doing repairs such as patching nail holes and painting and also had to care for and rehome 30 chickens and 1 dog, which I did. Now brother is try'ing to make me repay what they say I caused as expenses back to everyone. I feel that I did benefit the collective even though I stayed a little longer. That and my brother still hadn't been there. Everyone thanked me when they came thru for collection, no one has complained they didn't get their share of items. And all the painting and clean up did leave house looking clean and nice upon entry for new buyers. I only want my 1/8 , no more, but no less. I was in need and asking for help when mother passed. I recieved no help and still made brother's job much easier for when he did finally get there. We are at dispersement of funds, through a family trust, which the will says is equal shares. How can I stop him from taking from just me?

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Tell your family to go pound sand.
Tell them to sue you.
Tell them you will see them in court when they do.
Keep all your proofs of your care of your mother, and etc. Be ready to bring that to court with you.
The Trustee is held to the highest standards of Fiduciary care in administering the estate. lf he withholds funds for anything you should, when you receive your inheritance, see an elder law attorney and take him to court.

Tell him if he messes with you that you will see an attorney and will consider visiting him in jail, wearing RED.

From what you say, you did this without a care contract. I am very sorry for that, as it would be an enormous help to you now. It serves warning for others in your predicament. You should, if there is ANY WAY WHATSOEVER to do a go-fund-me or some other way to get funds for an hour of Trust and Estate Attorney Lawyer to protect you interests via a lawyer letter that will scare that a$$hat straight.

I am so sorry you must go through this.
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Reply to AlvaDeer
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The trust holds, he cannot do that unless he does a slight of hand, I would go to an attorney right now to protect your interest.
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Reply to MeDolly
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The will says equal shares so tell the brother if he fails to disburse the funds according to the will you will be pressing charges against him for his failure to do his job as executor. What a bunch of thankless and worthless pieces of garbage your siblings are. You may have to retain legal counsel but I believe when you win you would have those expenses paid for by the estate. Good luck.
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Closing an estate can take 18 months to 3 years. The executor still will have to do a final tax filing whenever the timing. If the executor is in a rush to sell the house then he can try to list it with all items insidd. I have seen it in tbd listings
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You owe him nothing. You cared for his mother. Saved the estate a lot of money. You may need to talk to a lawyer eventually. Tell your siblings if he tries to charge you, you will contest the accounting which means, their inheritance is held up to.
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