My mother in law is terminally ill, and she appointed her "was going to be ed" to be the power of attorney while she was heavily sedated. He is trying to stop her family members from visiting, and stop her son from staying in the hospital next to her! Can he do this???
It also never ceases to amaze me though how many I will speak with in the chain on behalf of corporate & the state knowing what looks like it may go wrong w/o mediation or I am trying to prevent & it doesn't get prevented because they believe the facility & what I've been told.
Today, I am having to move my dad a third time since the 1st of his 100 days of skilled since this one he is leaving admitted him medicaid & just kept billing medicare. He could have stayed at the last place (medicare only) and moved only once & while I tried to make many calls & did everything to avoid this no one would get involved because they believed the fairy tale land where every building operates via what is on paper. TX is a nightmare state for nursing homes. I do wonder if there are better states. As for POAs I have seen different NH read & interpret the POA differently as well. While one NH will not follow the POA wishes regarding no use of narcotics or only under consent the other NH will want to give antibiotics but if the POA says no to antibiotics they will observe the POA's voice as the patient's voice & not give them. The NH does not always know the best for the patient simply because the POA has more med. history on the patient i.e. from hospital specialists like Inf. Dis. specialists & that antib. will only do more harm than good.
Again everyone is not a robot. Everyone brings into it there own experiences, schooling whatever. POAs are also worded differently depending on the lawyer. I think that is part of the problem. Even ombudsmen are not robots & if they are prohospice or pro narcotics they will side with whatever they think the staff says is right because in their minds the staff is sitting by the 1 patients side 24-7 & intimately knowing what is best. Forget the idiot POA what do they know. We know alot. But you know this could be the only reason NHs also refuse to call a POA when they send a patient to the ER so we can be there to advocate or at least calm the demented patient. I have never once been called when they were sent to an ER & they were always terribly frightened & over-treated & almost killed when I found out next day they were in hosp. The state of TX is a nightmare. I would not advise anyone to facilitate anyone in this state. Either keep at home or move to another state. Please. Do yourself a favor. I have lost an entire day today to having to move dad again.
which is the only way someone is allowed a medicaid bed as the SS checks are the copay each month as the resident responsibility. I only know this is a new trick/lie because it happened at the one he is leaving & all along during his stay I was assured by the liars he had no coverage problems & could stay no matter what. Today while calling alternate NHs I was told the same lie that all their beds were duly certified. Then I called the state ombudsman & got the list of certified beds & found the prospective homes were also lying about which beds were medicaid. Best of all there will be no way to ensure he gets admitted into a medicaid bed because the ombudsman at the facility ultimately decides which ones are having a medicaid or a medicare in them & can move the cert. around the building to support keeping a patient in the same bed so you can't even tell by where the room is in the bldg. Worse yet the state hasn't caught up with the tricks so they will not be made to believe that he could move out of the frying pan into the fire.
I had a friend who was hospitalized and her husband absolutely limited who visited, who was alone with her and times they could visit...and for good reason to not have any drama for his wife during her hospital and recovery stay. It was a good decision even though there was hurt feelings.