If this doesn't work out, what are my options? I told her this needs to work to prevent the nursing home option but in the end you can't force a person to accept an aide or go to a nursing home. Even though she has Alzheimer's legally unless she's declared incompetent she still has a say,
To my Mom, it was like she was being replaced by someone decades younger. No way was anyone going to take over "her job" taking care of the house and taking care of my Dad.
Within 3 days that was the end of the caregiving. I called the Agency and told them the situation, they understood. Then I just let nature take its course. Mom had one fall too many and her brain said she could walk, but she no longer could. She was moved from the hospital to a nursing home.
Since I was a senior citizen myself, no way could I take care of two homes and still work full-time. I called back the caregivers and they took excellent care of my Dad for almost a year.