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I see from your profile that your mother is 79. When did you begin to notice that she wasn't keeping up her usual routines? Have you talked to her about your concerns?
My MIL hasn’t showered or bathed in over a year. It’s nasty, but she’s refused all help from the PSW’s. She won’t even let them wipe her face with a cloth. She’s also refused the foot care nurse from trimming her insanely long toenails. We think we’re going to have to sedate her to get that done, as it’s causing problems with her mobility.
It boils down to the fact that I can’t (ethically or physically) drag her to the bathroom and get this done. Even in hospitals they won’t. It’s gross, but if she says no, there’s literally nothing I can do. I just make sure that her sheets and clothes are clean. In the end, it’s all you can do.
I’m unsure what you mean on your profile about mom not driving. With dementia and vision issues there should be no doubt that she isn’t safe to drive. It’s not uncommon for the elderly, especially with dementia, to become fearful about showering. Falls are common and become a big fear. Have you tried hiring an aide to come in and help? Often, people with lots of experience caring for elderly dementia clients have some tricks of the trade to get cleaning accomplished.
Hospitals will make you shower--or they'll 'help' you into one.
My FIL got all the showers in the last year of his life in the hospital. A BIG part of caregiving is about hygeine, as so many huge issues can come about as a result of neglect. I actually saw a YouTube video with a patient who came to the podiatrist for a 'nail trimming' and this man had ANTS infesting his feet, since he never bathed, a colony had taken up residence in his feet.
Now I have a pretty strong stomach--but OMGosh, that was gross. Plus his toenails were probably 3" long, altho he kept insisting he'd had them cut last month. The dr actually had a Craftsman dremel tool that he had to use to grind down the nails.
My mom is pretty haphazard now with her showering and she smells horrible. I know she'll do a washcloth/sink 'bath' everyday, but she isn't getting clean. I am not involved in her care, really, and all I can do is be supportive of my poor YB who is the CG to her.
She refuses aides of all kind, so we're just in a holding pattern. I know we're not alone in this situation. There's 5 sibs and she won't let anyone but YB really take care of her. He's completely burnt out.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I see from your profile that your mother is 79. When did you begin to notice that she wasn't keeping up her usual routines? Have you talked to her about your concerns?
It boils down to the fact that I can’t (ethically or physically) drag her to the bathroom and get this done. Even in hospitals they won’t. It’s gross, but if she says no, there’s literally nothing I can do. I just make sure that her sheets and clothes are clean. In the end, it’s all you can do.
It's important to keep the privates clean, since bacteria can be a real issue.
My FIL got all the showers in the last year of his life in the hospital. A BIG part of caregiving is about hygeine, as so many huge issues can come about as a result of neglect. I actually saw a YouTube video with a patient who came to the podiatrist for a 'nail trimming' and this man had ANTS infesting his feet, since he never bathed, a colony had taken up residence in his feet.
Now I have a pretty strong stomach--but OMGosh, that was gross. Plus his toenails were probably 3" long, altho he kept insisting he'd had them cut last month. The dr actually had a Craftsman dremel tool that he had to use to grind down the nails.
My mom is pretty haphazard now with her showering and she smells horrible. I know she'll do a washcloth/sink 'bath' everyday, but she isn't getting clean. I am not involved in her care, really, and all I can do is be supportive of my poor YB who is the CG to her.
She refuses aides of all kind, so we're just in a holding pattern. I know we're not alone in this situation. There's 5 sibs and she won't let anyone but YB really take care of her. He's completely burnt out.