Mom, 99, dementia living in memory care self pay nearly depleted. Currently on hospice fell and fractured hip. In great pain. ER gave choice to admit and have pins inserted or do nothing and send her on to SKN after rehab. The surgery will revoke hospice but I was told it could resume. Chose pin surgery. Any advice on how to proceed?
Next possible step: Transfer to skilled nursing (along with resumed hospice) for rehab on same campus as memory unit building.
That's somebody who really, really wants to keep living. I hope she can return to a close level to where she was before.
Good luck to both you and mom
Yes she can go off hospice care to get surgery and yes she can go back on it after she's had it.
I'm just not clear why you would put a 99 year old through surgery who is near death, when hospice can keep her comfortable and pain free until she leaves this world. And if need be you can have her transferred to the hospice facility for her final days, and all that would be covered 100% under moms Medicare.
Just be aware that putting an elderly person under anesthesia for surgery often makes any mental decline much worse as well, so again I'm not sure I'm following your reasoning for opting for that at your moms age.
As hard as it is to let a loved one go, there does come a time when you have to just say enough is enough and not opt to put them through anything that will cause perhaps more pain, confusion and really not prolong the inevitable anyway, just to make you feel better about things. I think you should now do what's in the best interests of your mom.
nursing with an untreated hip fracture would be a long, painful bedridden ordeal. Up to the fall, she was able to walk. Hospice was started when she went through a period of anxiety and was refusing care and food. She responded well with the meds and the extra attention.
He was in terrible pain until he had his surgery.
Hospice keeping her pain free but not having the surgery would have meant her being so medicated you probably would have lost any ability to communicate.
As well as being bedridden.
You made the right choice.
Prayers sent for a good recovery of mobility and no pain.
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